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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 656903" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Lil, I was reading this entire thoughtful thread by Cedar and Copa, two of in my opinion the most intelligent posters we have (although everyone is intelligent...they just have such a way with words) and what YOU said finally prompted me to chime in with a few thoughts.</p><p>Lil, he's not alone. He doesn't know alone. He has you and Jabber and that is huge. So many adult kids don't have parents that are invested so dearly in their lives. So when he says he has "nobody" he is insulting you in a way.</p><p>I'd like to talk about friends.</p><p>Your son sounds like he is a natural introvert. I can relate to that. It is harder to make friends if most people do not interest you or if you are turned off by large groups at parties. But even introverts like me and your son need people time. You know who can make that happen? WE CAN! YOUR SON CAN! Working is a great place to find people to at least talk to and, like at my job, we all really care about each other. Ok, it's a unqiue type of environment, but he will have people to talk to at a job. And maybe learn to care for him. Who he is. Behind his fear and dysfunction. The more people you meet, the more you may find somebody you "click" with...maybe even a female <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> Is it easy? Not if you are shy and introverted and prefer one-on-one to crowds. But is it possible? YES!!!!</p><p>But, Lil, it requires work. If you aren't the natural life of the party it requires work.</p><p>Your son doesn't go anywhere or do anything so of course he has no friends. That's on him. The more you get out, the more people you meet. And I'm not talking about those friendly drug dealers on the street corner.</p><p>Your son is not pathetic. He just knows how to make his life easy and what to say to make you cry. Who wouldn't cry if their chld called to say they were friendless? That's an old trick.</p><p>Like the Job Corps, to have people in your son's life HE has to go places where people are. When I was on unemployment, I spent that whole time volunteering at different places. I swear, it was one of the most fun times of my life and I met so many people that my people knew me that I didn't even know. They remembered me. I also joined a drama group and that was fun too. I can't do that now with work, and I miss it.</p><p>Your son should go to the Job Corps. I hope he does. Never forget if he is that alone aside from you and Jabber it is because he is not trying to broaden his world. He's the only one who can do that for himself.</p><p></p><p>Ok, stepping off the soap box Sorry for the interruption.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 656903, member: 1550"] Lil, I was reading this entire thoughtful thread by Cedar and Copa, two of in my opinion the most intelligent posters we have (although everyone is intelligent...they just have such a way with words) and what YOU said finally prompted me to chime in with a few thoughts. Lil, he's not alone. He doesn't know alone. He has you and Jabber and that is huge. So many adult kids don't have parents that are invested so dearly in their lives. So when he says he has "nobody" he is insulting you in a way. I'd like to talk about friends. Your son sounds like he is a natural introvert. I can relate to that. It is harder to make friends if most people do not interest you or if you are turned off by large groups at parties. But even introverts like me and your son need people time. You know who can make that happen? WE CAN! YOUR SON CAN! Working is a great place to find people to at least talk to and, like at my job, we all really care about each other. Ok, it's a unqiue type of environment, but he will have people to talk to at a job. And maybe learn to care for him. Who he is. Behind his fear and dysfunction. The more people you meet, the more you may find somebody you "click" with...maybe even a female ;) Is it easy? Not if you are shy and introverted and prefer one-on-one to crowds. But is it possible? YES!!!! But, Lil, it requires work. If you aren't the natural life of the party it requires work. Your son doesn't go anywhere or do anything so of course he has no friends. That's on him. The more you get out, the more people you meet. And I'm not talking about those friendly drug dealers on the street corner. Your son is not pathetic. He just knows how to make his life easy and what to say to make you cry. Who wouldn't cry if their chld called to say they were friendless? That's an old trick. Like the Job Corps, to have people in your son's life HE has to go places where people are. When I was on unemployment, I spent that whole time volunteering at different places. I swear, it was one of the most fun times of my life and I met so many people that my people knew me that I didn't even know. They remembered me. I also joined a drama group and that was fun too. I can't do that now with work, and I miss it. Your son should go to the Job Corps. I hope he does. Never forget if he is that alone aside from you and Jabber it is because he is not trying to broaden his world. He's the only one who can do that for himself. Ok, stepping off the soap box Sorry for the interruption. [/QUOTE]
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