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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 656966" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>You see, he has learnt that those things he has going for him, do not matter. What do matter, are things he isn't too good at. For a kid, from rather early age on, their social standing in their peer group is more important than what adults say. And, unfortunately, to have a good social standing in your peer group, especially if you are a boy, you need to be good at sports and social games. And if you are a girl, it is another way around. If you are great at something, that may become your niche and you get some status in that peer group, and if you are really great, some of it can drip to your bigger peer group.</p><p></p><p>Kids are also very good at understanding that your mom says supportive things, because they are your mom and that teachers will tell any kid, that they just know that kid would do great, if they just applied themselves. So mom or teacher giving positive feedback doesn't count much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 656966, member: 14557"] You see, he has learnt that those things he has going for him, do not matter. What do matter, are things he isn't too good at. For a kid, from rather early age on, their social standing in their peer group is more important than what adults say. And, unfortunately, to have a good social standing in your peer group, especially if you are a boy, you need to be good at sports and social games. And if you are a girl, it is another way around. If you are great at something, that may become your niche and you get some status in that peer group, and if you are really great, some of it can drip to your bigger peer group. Kids are also very good at understanding that your mom says supportive things, because they are your mom and that teachers will tell any kid, that they just know that kid would do great, if they just applied themselves. So mom or teacher giving positive feedback doesn't count much. [/QUOTE]
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