Okay, I can't help it. Since I'm awake and still obsessing, I'm going to post the final email I sent. I can't change it now, but I tried to make it as nice and as clear as a I could. I made the subject line difficult child allergies/504 URGENT so hopefully she reads it first thing. I am still going back and forth about taking it to the nurse/principal and so on now. I definately see the reasoning, but then I think, its day 3 of this new school and I'm going to make this teacher my 1st enemy. I am going to stay up and keep checking on him through out the night. One thing I realized is that I have never noticed his allergy immediately until today. Today was the first time I saw swelling in his face on the same day, rather than the next day. Granted, his face wasn't as swollen as it has been the 2nd day in the past, but it was swollen enough that I knew he ate something he wasn't supposed to. He was also late getting to the van this afternoon after school because he was in the bathroom and he had stomach problems tonight as well. Okay, here goes with the final version. I hope I covered it all!
"difficult child's face looked a little puffy this afternoon so I asked him if he had eaten anything that he wasn't supposed to and he said Sean gave him a cupcake and you gave him a capri sun. He also has an upset stomach. I'm puzzled as to how this happened after my previous email. I did say in my email that he has had allergic reactions to an unknown food, cake was even a food I listed as a possible culprit. I explained he breaks out in hives and his face swells. If in the morning he is still swollen I will need to give him Benadryl. This will mean he may be hyper or fidgety during class, typically he reacts differently to medication than most kids. He may also be sleepy, but I wanted to warn you just in case, either way. :bravo:
I did ask that he only eat foods we send and that he even be watched closely in the lunchroom to avoid him sneaking foods. I am upset that he was given food today. If his behavioral problems occurred after consuming this food, his blood sugar level could have contributed to them.
I'm trying not to get overly upset over this, but I honestly feel any parent would be upset if this had happened to their child after such a detailed email. :crazy:
I have explained to difficult child about his diet and his most recent allergic reactions, but as much as I explain, he would prefer to eat the treat. :rolleyes: This is why I was so specific in my email.
In an email Ms. Principal sent me last week, she suggested that we not have the 504 meeting this week because of how busy the first week is for the teachers, this is why I suggested dates next week.
Please do not give difficult child any food or drink items besides plain water with no flavoring/carbonation/coloring. If a goody bag is given, please be sure to check it for food/drink, anything that can be eaten or drank, prior to giving it to him. If its okay, I can bring you some toy treats to give difficult child for days that others celebrate birthdays with food and drinks. If you would prefer for me to make up goody bags for him, to make it more in line with a birthday celebration, I can do that too.
Please know that I'm just trying to take care of my son. If a substitute is present, please be sure they know this about difficult child as well. I'm sorry this email is so lengthy, but I don't know what else to do besides explain as much as possible. :warrior:
Please understand, this is for his health and safety and when he misbehaves at school he gets into trouble both at school and at home. He doesn't like being in trouble, so ultimately it's for his happiness as well. I just want him to be safe, healthy and happy, when he is at home and at school, as I'm sure you do as well.
Thanks for understanding and taking care of difficult child while he is at school. :rolleyes:"
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