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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 720117" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I read your other post on PE about how you think making son move is giving up on him. A few thoughts.</p><p></p><p>You cant either help him or give up on him. He is the one who either helps himself or gives up on himself. Your personal feelings about him dont make him better or worse. Feelings do nothing. All of us have expressed undying love, faith in them, hope for them, anger at them, frustration etc. What we do oe feel or say doesnt matter. It is what THEY do. We like to think we have more power than we do.</p><p></p><p>Secondly, realizing you cant live with drugged son and acting on it is changing things up, which is good. Doing the same thing that doesnt work over and over again is insane. I personally feel that harm reduction is useless; doesnt work at all. As long as a druggie is a druggie and is told by parents that he can use, it wont reduce harm. He will use and harm will continue...to him and you too. Why worry what an inept system of workers think? They just dont want to care for him. He is a pain in the butt to them. They would rather he be a pain in the butt to YOU. Its easier for The System.</p><p></p><p>Your son needs help and is not getting it while living with you. He is refusing treatment. So let him refuse it and live less comfortably. Perhaps he will change his mind if he isnt in your home. Maybe not. But YOU will be more peaceful. This is his turf only.</p><p></p><p>I know its hard. Big hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 720117, member: 1550"] I read your other post on PE about how you think making son move is giving up on him. A few thoughts. You cant either help him or give up on him. He is the one who either helps himself or gives up on himself. Your personal feelings about him dont make him better or worse. Feelings do nothing. All of us have expressed undying love, faith in them, hope for them, anger at them, frustration etc. What we do oe feel or say doesnt matter. It is what THEY do. We like to think we have more power than we do. Secondly, realizing you cant live with drugged son and acting on it is changing things up, which is good. Doing the same thing that doesnt work over and over again is insane. I personally feel that harm reduction is useless; doesnt work at all. As long as a druggie is a druggie and is told by parents that he can use, it wont reduce harm. He will use and harm will continue...to him and you too. Why worry what an inept system of workers think? They just dont want to care for him. He is a pain in the butt to them. They would rather he be a pain in the butt to YOU. Its easier for The System. Your son needs help and is not getting it while living with you. He is refusing treatment. So let him refuse it and live less comfortably. Perhaps he will change his mind if he isnt in your home. Maybe not. But YOU will be more peaceful. This is his turf only. I know its hard. Big hugs! [/QUOTE]
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