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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 720155" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>It's not that you are giving up on him. We as parents do not have the power to save our children. It's been said before, "if love alone could save them, we wouldn't need this site"</p><p>One of the hardest truths to accept is that we as parents cannot fix our children's problems. They are no longer small children where a hug and a kiss will make everything better for them. They are grown, making their own decisions and no matter how bad those decisions are and no matter how much we hate it, it's theirs not ours. </p><p>The only one that can change your son is your son. The more you do for him the less he will do for himself. </p><p>I wish I would have found this site when my son was instead of 30, I could have saved myself years and a lot of money by detaching sooner. </p><p></p><p>Remember, detaching does not mean we don't love our kids, it just means we are no longer going to allow them to hold our emotions hostage. We are no longer going to enable their poor choices.</p><p></p><p>Don't get lost in the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt)</p><p></p><p>Hang in there!!!</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 720155, member: 18516"] It's not that you are giving up on him. We as parents do not have the power to save our children. It's been said before, "if love alone could save them, we wouldn't need this site" One of the hardest truths to accept is that we as parents cannot fix our children's problems. They are no longer small children where a hug and a kiss will make everything better for them. They are grown, making their own decisions and no matter how bad those decisions are and no matter how much we hate it, it's theirs not ours. The only one that can change your son is your son. The more you do for him the less he will do for himself. I wish I would have found this site when my son was instead of 30, I could have saved myself years and a lot of money by detaching sooner. Remember, detaching does not mean we don't love our kids, it just means we are no longer going to allow them to hold our emotions hostage. We are no longer going to enable their poor choices. Don't get lost in the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) Hang in there!!! ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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