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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 721552" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>Son is 18 on the 20th. Has been home with the promise of going to rehab. We have invested time and effort into the process and he is sabotaging the entire effort. He refused to go to the intake meeting. We have told him he is to leave we have given him 14 days. </p><p>The John Howard society and the entire system are shaming us. My head and my heart are in a battle. He is disrespectful not compliant with any house rules accept not to bring drugs home. He continues to use drugs and fail at his second attempt for high school. I read this last evening and it kept me strong. We can not help someone who won't get help nor can we enable this situation any longer. Need to be strong. </p><p></p><p></p><p>Just a gentle and loving reminder to all of us---</p><p></p><p></p><p>Letting go and detachment is not to abandon our child...</p><p></p><p>No one turns their back or "closes the door" on their child...</p><p></p><p>And I certainly do not think Anyone here gives up on their loved one-</p><p></p><p>We simply LET GO of that which we have NO CONTROL..</p><p></p><p>None of us are that powerful to control and/or change another...</p><p></p><p>When you recognize how very difficult it Is just in the changing of oneself you will understand the IMPOSSIBILITY of changing someone else!</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" does not mean to stop caring; it means I can't do it for someone else</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to cut myself off; it's the realization I can't control another</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means that the outcome is not in my hands</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another; it's to make the most of myself</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destiny</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to be protective; it's to permit another to face reality</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is to not regret the past, but to grow and live for the future</p><p></p><p></p><p>To "let go" is to fear less and love myself more</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 721552, member: 21895"] Son is 18 on the 20th. Has been home with the promise of going to rehab. We have invested time and effort into the process and he is sabotaging the entire effort. He refused to go to the intake meeting. We have told him he is to leave we have given him 14 days. The John Howard society and the entire system are shaming us. My head and my heart are in a battle. He is disrespectful not compliant with any house rules accept not to bring drugs home. He continues to use drugs and fail at his second attempt for high school. I read this last evening and it kept me strong. We can not help someone who won't get help nor can we enable this situation any longer. Need to be strong. Just a gentle and loving reminder to all of us--- Letting go and detachment is not to abandon our child... No one turns their back or "closes the door" on their child... And I certainly do not think Anyone here gives up on their loved one- We simply LET GO of that which we have NO CONTROL.. None of us are that powerful to control and/or change another... When you recognize how very difficult it Is just in the changing of oneself you will understand the IMPOSSIBILITY of changing someone else! To "let go" does not mean to stop caring; it means I can't do it for someone else To "let go" is not to cut myself off; it's the realization I can't control another To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences To "let go" is to admit powerlessness, which means that the outcome is not in my hands To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another; it's to make the most of myself To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive To "let go" is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being To "let go" is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destiny To "let go" is not to be protective; it's to permit another to face reality To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept To "let go" is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them To "let go" is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be To "let go" is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it To "let go" is to not regret the past, but to grow and live for the future To "let go" is to fear less and love myself more [/QUOTE]
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