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<blockquote data-quote="seriously" data-source="post: 427327" data-attributes="member: 11920"><p>Ask difficult child what he knows about the bills. Just so you know what he's going to say when social security asks him.</p><p></p><p>Then take his hand and go down to your local social security office and tell them you're there to help your grandson and could someone please talk to him about these bills?</p><p></p><p>Do not take no for an answer.</p><p></p><p>Play dumb as dirt. Ask all the questions you can think of to ask and make them explain everything until you understand it. And until either difficult child understands it or it is painfully clear to everyone that difficult child is incapable of understanding either how the debt came to be or the consequences of having this large debt.</p><p></p><p>Ask them for copies of all the notices and letters that have been sent about this debt. Tell them how difficult child needs lots of help handling money and his mom has been helping him but you're not so sure she is doing the right thing sometimes.</p><p></p><p>Ask them what will happen when difficult child doesn't pay the money back.</p><p></p><p>Once you have all the info you will have to decide what to do next.</p><p></p><p>If you are lucky, it will become clear to the nice social security person that difficult child is incapable of handling his own money or even understanding what is going on.</p><p></p><p>This may actually be a blessing in disguise. Because it may help when it comes to his disability appeal. It is patently ridiculous to say that someone who cannot manage their money or understand SSA's most basic rules is not disabled.</p><p></p><p>Frankly, I think someone needs to have financial custodial care for difficult child = or a financial conservator, what ever they call it where you live. It does not have to be permanent but he would not be in this mess if you had legal custody of his finances. And if GFGmom had legal custody of his finances - SSA could go after her for fraud without hesitation if she has been misusing his funds.</p><p></p><p>I strongly advise you to not do anything to create financial entanglements with difficult child at this point and to undo any that you may have already set up - in case you have a joint account of any kind or money held in trust for him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seriously, post: 427327, member: 11920"] Ask difficult child what he knows about the bills. Just so you know what he's going to say when social security asks him. Then take his hand and go down to your local social security office and tell them you're there to help your grandson and could someone please talk to him about these bills? Do not take no for an answer. Play dumb as dirt. Ask all the questions you can think of to ask and make them explain everything until you understand it. And until either difficult child understands it or it is painfully clear to everyone that difficult child is incapable of understanding either how the debt came to be or the consequences of having this large debt. Ask them for copies of all the notices and letters that have been sent about this debt. Tell them how difficult child needs lots of help handling money and his mom has been helping him but you're not so sure she is doing the right thing sometimes. Ask them what will happen when difficult child doesn't pay the money back. Once you have all the info you will have to decide what to do next. If you are lucky, it will become clear to the nice social security person that difficult child is incapable of handling his own money or even understanding what is going on. This may actually be a blessing in disguise. Because it may help when it comes to his disability appeal. It is patently ridiculous to say that someone who cannot manage their money or understand SSA's most basic rules is not disabled. Frankly, I think someone needs to have financial custodial care for difficult child = or a financial conservator, what ever they call it where you live. It does not have to be permanent but he would not be in this mess if you had legal custody of his finances. And if GFGmom had legal custody of his finances - SSA could go after her for fraud without hesitation if she has been misusing his funds. I strongly advise you to not do anything to create financial entanglements with difficult child at this point and to undo any that you may have already set up - in case you have a joint account of any kind or money held in trust for him. [/QUOTE]
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