Granddaughter Update - part 3

ksm

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This past weekend was great-grandson's weekend with his dad. He lives in a town about 15 to 20 miles away. We dropped Alex off with him on Friday at 5:00. I guess his wife has a job now at the local convenience store and she worked on Saturday until 8:00 p.m. I'm assuming from noon to 8:00. Sometime during that night I'm guessing about 2:00 to 2:30 a.m. the police were called to their house and his father was arrested. It sounds like it was a domestic battery situation. There were a total of five charges between Criminal damage, aggravated battery, intimidating a witness, interference with law enforcement, and child endangerment. The children were left there the with mom and not removed.

I later found out that his wife said he was drunk when she came home at the end of her shift. So he was watching three kids ages four and under. We picked Alex up early from his stepmoms and she said she tried to keep him in his room but he was aware of some things. And after the police said arrested his dad he wanted to talk to the policeman. She said it was mostly inquisitive stuff about being a policeman and not about his dad.


We also stopped and talked to his dad and stepmom that live in the same town about the situation. This puts our great grandson and a vulnerable position. As dad is in jail and his mom is to leave Tuesday morning for another rehab 150 miles away. They said they weren't feeling him out. But yesterday I saw that he had been bailed out. He was in jail on a $30,000 bond. And using a bail bondsman would cost 3000.00.

We do have medical authorization for Alex and his parents absence and we do have paperwork at the Head start that we can talk to them or sign papers for him at school. A an attorney that my husband knows thought that would be enough to keep him here. But it's scary. But doing anything to get SRS involved is scarier.

I am sure if she doesn't complete this new rehab she will be going to jail. I don't have to drive her the 150 mi to this rehab as the corrections department is providing transportation. This is a fairly big red flag that it's serious!

This facility seems a little stricter than the last one. I did call to find out how we would contact her in emergency regarding her child. They get their phones three evenings a week from 7:00 to 8:00 p.m. they can bring some snack and drink foods with them locked in a locker. But they cannot bring caffeinated drinks. The facility will serve coffee in the morning but not after 10:00 a.m.


I'll try to give an update in a while to see how it's going there. At this point we do not plan on visiting. Ksm
 

Copabanana

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I did call to find out how we would contact her in emergency regarding her child.
I worked in prisons. In an emergency you can call custodial staff, or who is acting in an administrative position. Or she would have a counselor. There should always be somebody there who can get her on the line in an emergency.

Hi ksm.
If it's not one thing, it's another. It sounds serious with Great Grandson's Dad. I am so sorry that he was exposed to this drama. I am so glad you have documented everything (I mean all the lapses, issues and drama) with his parents. That is how you protect him and yourselves.
 

ksm

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She got there Tuesday afternoon. But things were chaotic the last two days. She never came home the last two days and prepare to get ready. Then she tried to wash, dry, fold two large loads of clothes and pack, shop for things she needed, and do last minute things that should have been done a week ago.

After she got there, and found out she would not have her phone for a week, she started texting me that it was a mistake, she needs her diversion officer to find another place, but since she can't call him for a week she was begging me to contact him. I will, just to let him know what her frame of mind is.

What a mess. AND... I found out that GGson's dad was bailed out of jail and I was told that there is a no contact order between he and his wife. But who knows if he and his wife will follow it. And I still don't know what is allowed for contact with his kids.

Ksm
 

ksm

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Alyssa called today to video chat with her son. I wasn't expecting calls as the first week they don't have their phone, but on holidays they get some extra time...and Halloween counts as a holiday. She called at a good time, we had just finished taking him trick or treating and waiting for a happy meal in the drive thru. She sounded pretty good. She didn't say anything negative about the facility. Maybe s g e was in a common area and couldn't talk...I don't know.

GGs had a great day, considering he was sick last night and missed school today. But he had no fever when he woke up so we did a couple activities and he got to go trick or treating some. He is such a little clown, always hamming it up. I got some great photos!

But at bedtime, he wouldn't let me leave...he said he has bad dreams. I asked him what kind of bad dreams and he said people fighting. I asked, you mean like daddy and Txxxx? And he said yes,they were hitting each other. Then he said he was scared and he showed me how he made a noise like crying and hyperventilating a/ the same time. I told him I would be scared too! That mommies and daddies are not suppose to hit each other. That Gigi and Papa don't yell and hit. And that someday he would grow up to be a man and if I knew he was hitting a woman I would be very sad and disappointed.

That people who love each other should never hurt each other. I told him that on Saturday he's going to a relatives wedding. And he said when they kiss, I'm going to say yuck! Then he made gagging noises.

I live this little guy. Oh, then he told "Alexa (Amazon speaker)" that he loved her. And she said, "that's very sweet of you!" Then he told me to tell Alexa that I loved her too...when I didn't do it, he said '"Alexa, my gigi loves you, too."

Love him so much. Ksm
 
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