I am glad you found us here, You are not alone here HALO527! This is a safe place, and it is a great relief to be able to share your story, your fears, and your grief with others who understand. There is no shame here. We learn from each other and find comfort, support, and understanding. It is hard to not have the answers, and hard to stay patient with the unknown. What I have seen and learned on this site has literally helped me stay alive and stay sane through some very hard times. We are in this together.
Of course your son is scared, and you are too. I just want to assure you that you will get through this time. Stay with us and keep posting and reading others' stories. You will get stronger, and learn the loving "detachment" that can bring you a peace of sorts in yourself.
My son was also in jail, as are many other difficult children on this site. But my son is much older than your son. For me, it was actually a relief that my son ended up in jail, as I think it helped to be a wake up call for him. I have often thought that his "arrest" was his "rescue." .. But I think for you - I know it is especially hard, as your son is so young yet. It is a hard process to wait for the trial and decisions, and be facing the unknown for such a long time. I will be following along.
Take care, dear. Know that you are going to be alright.
