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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 749456" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>You are the mother of an adult. Even nice adult kids dont hang with their family of origin all the time. That is not the norm.</p><p></p><p>Addicts are not loving family members. I am in Al Anon. The grown kids are ALL like your son and my Kay. You didnt</p><p>cause it, you cant control it and you cant cure it.</p><p></p><p>Do you get help? Go to therapy or Al Anon for support? This is too hard to do alone or even just with this forum, which does help. I highly suggest a lot of help. It is not good for you or him for you to obsess over your son.</p><p></p><p>In Al Anon I learned to accept that I may never have a normal mom/daughter relationship with Kay. The realization panicked me and sent me into grief at first. I was in fetal position for weeks just crying. But with time and therapy I came to accept it. It takes time and support in my opinion. Its hard, but it is a doable and a relief once you come to acceptance again in my opinion. And not facing it just makes us grieve all the time. We deserve to move on. They sure are not thinking about us unless they want something. This is so abnormal for 30 year olds. My Kay can throw a monster tantrum, like a kid, if I say no.</p><p></p><p>I hope you do things for yourself so you can learn to cope and live life even though your son is a trainwreck, like my Kay. If you dont get help, you will mentally fall apart like I used to do. Our falling apart does not help our kids. If it did, I would gladly do it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 749456, member: 23706"] You are the mother of an adult. Even nice adult kids dont hang with their family of origin all the time. That is not the norm. Addicts are not loving family members. I am in Al Anon. The grown kids are ALL like your son and my Kay. You didnt cause it, you cant control it and you cant cure it. Do you get help? Go to therapy or Al Anon for support? This is too hard to do alone or even just with this forum, which does help. I highly suggest a lot of help. It is not good for you or him for you to obsess over your son. In Al Anon I learned to accept that I may never have a normal mom/daughter relationship with Kay. The realization panicked me and sent me into grief at first. I was in fetal position for weeks just crying. But with time and therapy I came to accept it. It takes time and support in my opinion. Its hard, but it is a doable and a relief once you come to acceptance again in my opinion. And not facing it just makes us grieve all the time. We deserve to move on. They sure are not thinking about us unless they want something. This is so abnormal for 30 year olds. My Kay can throw a monster tantrum, like a kid, if I say no. I hope you do things for yourself so you can learn to cope and live life even though your son is a trainwreck, like my Kay. If you dont get help, you will mentally fall apart like I used to do. Our falling apart does not help our kids. If it did, I would gladly do it. [/QUOTE]
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