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<blockquote data-quote="ColleenB" data-source="post: 727272" data-attributes="member: 19887"><p>LBL,</p><p></p><p>I think you knew he wasn’t going to get his credits, as his actions haven’t been showing any real commitment. His brain isn’t ready to learn. When my son kept going back to university (four times!) and failed out all but the first one, I knew he couldn’t learn but he kept wanting to go back and I felt I had to support him. By the fourth time I wasn’t at all surprised. I knew as long as he was still using he couldn’t. This is the first term he has been successful and it shows us he is finally turning a corner but he has been sober, which is making all the difference.</p><p></p><p>He wanted to do well each time he went back, I believe that, but he couldn’t as his head was still in the fog of addiction. I honestly don’t think your sons brain is in a place he can learn. As a counsellor and educator I see kids who are in crisis and to be honest, one of the hardest parts is convincing the teachers and sometimes parents that this child can not learn as long as they are in a crisis state. Their “lid is flipped” and they are incapable of retaining any real learning.</p><p></p><p>I think keeping the focus on the rehab bed and getting him there is crucial. Learning can happen once he is not in crisis or addict brain.</p><p></p><p>Hugs friend.... I know that feeling of disappointment and sadness ....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ColleenB, post: 727272, member: 19887"] LBL, I think you knew he wasn’t going to get his credits, as his actions haven’t been showing any real commitment. His brain isn’t ready to learn. When my son kept going back to university (four times!) and failed out all but the first one, I knew he couldn’t learn but he kept wanting to go back and I felt I had to support him. By the fourth time I wasn’t at all surprised. I knew as long as he was still using he couldn’t. This is the first term he has been successful and it shows us he is finally turning a corner but he has been sober, which is making all the difference. He wanted to do well each time he went back, I believe that, but he couldn’t as his head was still in the fog of addiction. I honestly don’t think your sons brain is in a place he can learn. As a counsellor and educator I see kids who are in crisis and to be honest, one of the hardest parts is convincing the teachers and sometimes parents that this child can not learn as long as they are in a crisis state. Their “lid is flipped” and they are incapable of retaining any real learning. I think keeping the focus on the rehab bed and getting him there is crucial. Learning can happen once he is not in crisis or addict brain. Hugs friend.... I know that feeling of disappointment and sadness .... [/QUOTE]
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