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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 731453" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>SWOT.. this was good!</p><p></p><p>Never heard this term “flying monkey,” before when referring to an enabling parent. Can you elaborate?</p><p></p><p>That was my situation and yes, it did bother me about my mom not sticking up for me. on the other hand, I did see that she had the kind of personality narcissists are drawn to...kind, giving, patient and sadly...low self esteem and doormat tendencies</p><p>(Especially after he got through with her) Mom and I got in some doozy fights later on about my father. I thought she should leave.</p><p></p><p>In college, a gazillion years ago, I needed a social science credit. I took sociology. I was reading the text for a test. I came across the chapter about how sometimes young women with abusive and/or narcissistic father’s will marry the same. Omg. I recall exactly where I was at that moment many decades ago. I quietly shut the book. And I said to myself “I swear, for the love of Gxd, that will NOT be my situation.”</p><p></p><p>And I married a wonderful, kind, giving man. Best move I ever made in my LIFE.</p><p></p><p>by the way, we were married a few years before I told my hubby the complete truth about my father. All the abuses both emotional and physical. In the middle of the night I just started blurting out everything and couldn’t stop. He jumped out of bed screaming and called him a very bad word. From that day forward , not to his face, but with me and everyone, he called him bybthis word and I don’t believe ever used his name again.</p><p></p><p>Oddly, I have a LITTLE sorrow (pity?) for my dad. A sad mess.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 731453, member: 4152"] SWOT.. this was good! Never heard this term “flying monkey,” before when referring to an enabling parent. Can you elaborate? That was my situation and yes, it did bother me about my mom not sticking up for me. on the other hand, I did see that she had the kind of personality narcissists are drawn to...kind, giving, patient and sadly...low self esteem and doormat tendencies (Especially after he got through with her) Mom and I got in some doozy fights later on about my father. I thought she should leave. In college, a gazillion years ago, I needed a social science credit. I took sociology. I was reading the text for a test. I came across the chapter about how sometimes young women with abusive and/or narcissistic father’s will marry the same. Omg. I recall exactly where I was at that moment many decades ago. I quietly shut the book. And I said to myself “I swear, for the love of Gxd, that will NOT be my situation.” And I married a wonderful, kind, giving man. Best move I ever made in my LIFE. by the way, we were married a few years before I told my hubby the complete truth about my father. All the abuses both emotional and physical. In the middle of the night I just started blurting out everything and couldn’t stop. He jumped out of bed screaming and called him a very bad word. From that day forward , not to his face, but with me and everyone, he called him bybthis word and I don’t believe ever used his name again. Oddly, I have a LITTLE sorrow (pity?) for my dad. A sad mess. [/QUOTE]
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