I am not real clear on a flying monkey, but I THINK it is a family member who visits you to guilt you into going back to the Lion's Den. Like you are being mean to your parent who is sobbing over you every day (not).
I never had any. My mother DID talk about me to the few others in my FOO, but never sent out any flying monkeys to try to get me back. She didn't want me back. I tried. It was so foolish of me to try! But eventually I did quit trying and was better off.
In retrospect, it was a blessing that she was not around to influence me. Or my kids!!!! Yikes!
I married a rather odd and incompatible man the first time, but after my divorce I had been in counseling and had been attending a Codependent Anonymous group for many years and my second marriage is amazing. I picked a winner and am very happy. He is a wonderful man. Neither were narcicistcs.
Good for both of us for breaking the narcicistic cycle 
