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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 755919" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>I think that our recovery takes time and effort. I don't necessarily feel we can just "think" we want to be rid of the guilt or "think" we want things to be better for us and our adult children. For me, it's been a long journey with prayer, trust in God, therapy, Al-anon and good books to enlighten and guide me and this support group.</p><p></p><p>For most of us the damage is deep but I've learned that first and foremost, I have to be the change in the situation. I have to practice good self-talk. Our minds can keep us in a loop with constant blaming and regrets and guilt. Maybe if you start with being gentle to yourself and kind to yourself in your thoughts you can slowly move in the right direction. When you start to feel the "guilt" write some things down that you used to do for your son when he was younger. I'm betting you'd come up with a good list that will remind you that you did care and were a good Mom. Years of not valuing myself got me into a very negative space and as I said the recovery from that is going to take a long time.</p><p></p><p>Pick up a good inspirational book, go for a walk or do something even smaller that will be taking a step in the right direction to value yourself. Over time you can learn to think better and you will feel better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 755919, member: 23405"] I think that our recovery takes time and effort. I don't necessarily feel we can just "think" we want to be rid of the guilt or "think" we want things to be better for us and our adult children. For me, it's been a long journey with prayer, trust in God, therapy, Al-anon and good books to enlighten and guide me and this support group. For most of us the damage is deep but I've learned that first and foremost, I have to be the change in the situation. I have to practice good self-talk. Our minds can keep us in a loop with constant blaming and regrets and guilt. Maybe if you start with being gentle to yourself and kind to yourself in your thoughts you can slowly move in the right direction. When you start to feel the "guilt" write some things down that you used to do for your son when he was younger. I'm betting you'd come up with a good list that will remind you that you did care and were a good Mom. Years of not valuing myself got me into a very negative space and as I said the recovery from that is going to take a long time. Pick up a good inspirational book, go for a walk or do something even smaller that will be taking a step in the right direction to value yourself. Over time you can learn to think better and you will feel better. [/QUOTE]
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