RN, I didn't have power for three days due to the storm and managed to miss this when I got back online. I am so sorry that you are going through this again.
I asked my daughter recently why she could stay sober for short periods of time but would always relapse. She said that after a period of sobriety she would think that she could handle one drink. Then, she would think she could handle two. Next thing she knew she was drinking and using benzos again and then she would spiral all the way down. I asked her why in the world she would keep doing that when she knew it always led to a relapse, her answer was, "Mom, you just don't think like an addict."
Your son is doing exactly what my daughter did when she was in Florida. She used rehab and sober living houses to stay off the streets. I first heard the term south Florida shuffle when my daughter returned to Georgia and was looking for a rehab up here. The therapist listened to her story and told her that she had been doing the south Florida shuffle. Evidently, they had heard it before.
But . . . there are some positives here. Your son worked this out himself. He found a place to go and apologized for his previous behavior. Your were not involved in fixing this for him. He talked to his boss and managed to keep his job. Again, this is a good thing.
I think my daughter got something from each rehab she stayed in and eventually that helped in her recovery. She and I laughed at the last one that she could be teaching the classes but that meant she had learned something along the way.
He has learned that you are not fixing his mistakes. Eventually he will get tired of having to do this the hard way.
Remember that you called this a marathon in another thread. Keep up your strength.
~Kathy
I asked my daughter recently why she could stay sober for short periods of time but would always relapse. She said that after a period of sobriety she would think that she could handle one drink. Then, she would think she could handle two. Next thing she knew she was drinking and using benzos again and then she would spiral all the way down. I asked her why in the world she would keep doing that when she knew it always led to a relapse, her answer was, "Mom, you just don't think like an addict."
Your son is doing exactly what my daughter did when she was in Florida. She used rehab and sober living houses to stay off the streets. I first heard the term south Florida shuffle when my daughter returned to Georgia and was looking for a rehab up here. The therapist listened to her story and told her that she had been doing the south Florida shuffle. Evidently, they had heard it before.
But . . . there are some positives here. Your son worked this out himself. He found a place to go and apologized for his previous behavior. Your were not involved in fixing this for him. He talked to his boss and managed to keep his job. Again, this is a good thing.
I think my daughter got something from each rehab she stayed in and eventually that helped in her recovery. She and I laughed at the last one that she could be teaching the classes but that meant she had learned something along the way.
He has learned that you are not fixing his mistakes. Eventually he will get tired of having to do this the hard way.
Remember that you called this a marathon in another thread. Keep up your strength.
~Kathy