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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 747164" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Hi and welcome, M</p><p></p><p>It sounds like your main problem is the relatives who keep taking your son’s calls, yet don’t want to do anything for your son themselves (perfectly understandable), but want you to relieve them of their guilt by trying to guilt YOU into taking care of whatever your son’s current problem is. </p><p></p><p>Not OK.</p><p></p><p>The next time someone calls with yet another story, politely but firmly tell them that you will no longer discuss anything related to your son, and you request that they no longer call about him or his situation. If they continue to do this after you have made yourself clear, just tell them you don’t want to talk about your son and you need to get off the phone. Keep doing this.</p><p></p><p>Your situation is very familiar to those of us who frequent this forum. You are not alone in feeling trapped by the choices that adult children make and want us to fix for them. There comes a point where we realize it never helps in the long run, no matter how much money, time, and effort we put towards helping them. </p><p></p><p>You deserve to retire and enjoy your life.</p><p></p><p>Don’t let anyone steal this time from you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 747164, member: 16024"] Hi and welcome, M It sounds like your main problem is the relatives who keep taking your son’s calls, yet don’t want to do anything for your son themselves (perfectly understandable), but want you to relieve them of their guilt by trying to guilt YOU into taking care of whatever your son’s current problem is. Not OK. The next time someone calls with yet another story, politely but firmly tell them that you will no longer discuss anything related to your son, and you request that they no longer call about him or his situation. If they continue to do this after you have made yourself clear, just tell them you don’t want to talk about your son and you need to get off the phone. Keep doing this. Your situation is very familiar to those of us who frequent this forum. You are not alone in feeling trapped by the choices that adult children make and want us to fix for them. There comes a point where we realize it never helps in the long run, no matter how much money, time, and effort we put towards helping them. You deserve to retire and enjoy your life. Don’t let anyone steal this time from you. [/QUOTE]
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