Cinderella's Momma
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I was beginning to think I was the only one! However, my daughter is only 8 at this time, but she destroys everything. I don't know how much food and cleaners and other stuff I go through because she opens things and leaves them out, sits down and eats a whole bag of chips or opens the cereal and leaves it out or hides it in her room and then she complains she has none.
She takes apart my brooms and mops and throws things and everything. I have tried every type of punishment I can think of, but it doesn't change anything. I throw things away, take things away and all that kind of stuff and while I do get a tantrum most of the time, then she's done and she doesn't care if she gets the stuff back or not. Everything is hers, the house, the car, the furniture. I get, "it's my house, I'll do what I want," or "it's my room, I'll do what I want," over and over.
If we go to the store and she doesn't get anything, but I do, then "it's not fair," even though I hardly ever get anything and I am constantly buying things for her. Or if friends come over and want to play with- her toys, "it's not fair," even though she gets to go over to their house and play with- their toys. And, of course, everything is all of a sudden "her favorite" when friends come over and she doesn't want them to play with- it.
For her birthday, she got around 5 new pairs of shoes for school because she claimed all the others were too small. She has lost every single pair. Either both of the shoes, or one of the set. My mom bought her a jacket just last week and she has already lost it.
As a SM this can be even more frustrating since I don't have the $ to be able to go out and replace things. I have to go to the dollar store to replace things because sooner or later she breaks them or "loses" them.
Just last week I had told her that she couldn't open the brand new bag of cereal and of course she had a fit. I was in my room on the phone and a little while later, I came out and she had split the bag down the middle and had dropped most of it on the floor and was sitting in the living room while a big bowl of milk and cereal on her lap. As I was standing there fuming, with I am sure smoke billowing out my ears, trying not to go off on her, she looked up at me very innocently and said, I forgot. I was torn between laughing like a madwoman or running down the street of my neighborhood screaming.
So, even though it may not be a complete relief, at least you know you are not alone. I have hidden in my room many times just to get away from the accusations and just plain chaos and it sounds like other moms have had to do the same, unfortunately.
Hang in there and remember that even though it may not seem like it, you have done a wonderful thing taking in and loving (though I am sure you don't feel very loving at this point) this child and hopefully, some day, he will realize it and thank you for it.
She takes apart my brooms and mops and throws things and everything. I have tried every type of punishment I can think of, but it doesn't change anything. I throw things away, take things away and all that kind of stuff and while I do get a tantrum most of the time, then she's done and she doesn't care if she gets the stuff back or not. Everything is hers, the house, the car, the furniture. I get, "it's my house, I'll do what I want," or "it's my room, I'll do what I want," over and over.
If we go to the store and she doesn't get anything, but I do, then "it's not fair," even though I hardly ever get anything and I am constantly buying things for her. Or if friends come over and want to play with- her toys, "it's not fair," even though she gets to go over to their house and play with- their toys. And, of course, everything is all of a sudden "her favorite" when friends come over and she doesn't want them to play with- it.
For her birthday, she got around 5 new pairs of shoes for school because she claimed all the others were too small. She has lost every single pair. Either both of the shoes, or one of the set. My mom bought her a jacket just last week and she has already lost it.
As a SM this can be even more frustrating since I don't have the $ to be able to go out and replace things. I have to go to the dollar store to replace things because sooner or later she breaks them or "loses" them.
Just last week I had told her that she couldn't open the brand new bag of cereal and of course she had a fit. I was in my room on the phone and a little while later, I came out and she had split the bag down the middle and had dropped most of it on the floor and was sitting in the living room while a big bowl of milk and cereal on her lap. As I was standing there fuming, with I am sure smoke billowing out my ears, trying not to go off on her, she looked up at me very innocently and said, I forgot. I was torn between laughing like a madwoman or running down the street of my neighborhood screaming.
So, even though it may not be a complete relief, at least you know you are not alone. I have hidden in my room many times just to get away from the accusations and just plain chaos and it sounds like other moms have had to do the same, unfortunately.
Hang in there and remember that even though it may not seem like it, you have done a wonderful thing taking in and loving (though I am sure you don't feel very loving at this point) this child and hopefully, some day, he will realize it and thank you for it.
