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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 409633" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>This is really what I meant about uninvolved parents. We live in a modest neighborhood surrounded by multi-million-dollar neighborhoods. These are the kids whose parents can afford to buy them a new BMW or Mercedes or anything else they want when they turn 16 and get their driver's license. These are the kids who have EVERYTHING material, but often lack a close or grounded family life simply because their parents are both working to maintain this extravagant lifestyle. The same parents who we can't get to volunteer to help out in booster clubs or in the classrooms, who would rather just write you a check and be done with their "obligation." I spent the lunch hour on my son's campus yesterday and was astounded at the way these kids dressed, the way they behaved, their attitudes towards others -- disgusted with the lack of respect or humility they have, and the overblown sense of entitlement many of them have. These are the kids that throw the crazy-wild parties when mom and dad are off in Hawaii. </p><p> </p><p>Like someone else said, I think what surprised me is that when I was growing up, heroin was an inner-city drug BECAUSE it was cheap. Those kids couldn't afford cocaine or prescription pills, which are also expensive. And meth wasn't really even heard of back then. I had a cousin who died about 15 years ago of a heroin overdose at age 35 -- my uncle went looking for him after the hospital he worked at called because he hadn't shown up at work for two days. He was still lying on the bathroom floor with the needle in his arm. While it was utterly shocking at the time, in hindsight, this cousin really was a difficult child and it was not his first time using I later learned. His dad was also very self-absorbed and could not deal with the fact that his son had come out a few years earlier. After he died, his dad refused to ever speak about him and wouldn't acknowledge that he ever exisited. I suppose the pain was too great for him, but stuffing those feelings was typical of how he dealt with things when his kids were growing up. THAT'S the kind of denial that causes fundamental problems for families.</p><p> </p><p>I'm hopeful my kids have been adequately brain-washed by me, so far. I've overheard both the difficult child's tell a friend that they believe they would damage their liver if they ever tried mixing illegal drugs with the rx'd medications they have to take to stay healthy. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/winks.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":winks:" title="winks :winks:" data-shortname=":winks:" /> So while that may get challenged one day as an exaggeration, at least it gives them an answer that's not tied to some rule their mom gave them if someone ever offers. The best I can do is educate them as openly and truthfully about the dangers as I can and keep my radar up. And pray.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 409633, member: 3444"] This is really what I meant about uninvolved parents. We live in a modest neighborhood surrounded by multi-million-dollar neighborhoods. These are the kids whose parents can afford to buy them a new BMW or Mercedes or anything else they want when they turn 16 and get their driver's license. These are the kids who have EVERYTHING material, but often lack a close or grounded family life simply because their parents are both working to maintain this extravagant lifestyle. The same parents who we can't get to volunteer to help out in booster clubs or in the classrooms, who would rather just write you a check and be done with their "obligation." I spent the lunch hour on my son's campus yesterday and was astounded at the way these kids dressed, the way they behaved, their attitudes towards others -- disgusted with the lack of respect or humility they have, and the overblown sense of entitlement many of them have. These are the kids that throw the crazy-wild parties when mom and dad are off in Hawaii. Like someone else said, I think what surprised me is that when I was growing up, heroin was an inner-city drug BECAUSE it was cheap. Those kids couldn't afford cocaine or prescription pills, which are also expensive. And meth wasn't really even heard of back then. I had a cousin who died about 15 years ago of a heroin overdose at age 35 -- my uncle went looking for him after the hospital he worked at called because he hadn't shown up at work for two days. He was still lying on the bathroom floor with the needle in his arm. While it was utterly shocking at the time, in hindsight, this cousin really was a difficult child and it was not his first time using I later learned. His dad was also very self-absorbed and could not deal with the fact that his son had come out a few years earlier. After he died, his dad refused to ever speak about him and wouldn't acknowledge that he ever exisited. I suppose the pain was too great for him, but stuffing those feelings was typical of how he dealt with things when his kids were growing up. THAT'S the kind of denial that causes fundamental problems for families. I'm hopeful my kids have been adequately brain-washed by me, so far. I've overheard both the difficult child's tell a friend that they believe they would damage their liver if they ever tried mixing illegal drugs with the rx'd medications they have to take to stay healthy. :winks: So while that may get challenged one day as an exaggeration, at least it gives them an answer that's not tied to some rule their mom gave them if someone ever offers. The best I can do is educate them as openly and truthfully about the dangers as I can and keep my radar up. And pray. [/QUOTE]
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