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How can I ever truly be happy? I am 63 and she is 36 still acting 13.
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 746909" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>If it were me, my response to this would be "Honey, you have it backwards, you are the one who is cruel by not taking care of your own children"</p><p></p><p>Here's a tip that has worked for many of here. Have a list of responses at the ready. This is really helpful when they call, you can just refer to the list. Also, reading them over and over helps to make them stick in your head.</p><p>Example:</p><p>Daughter: Mom, I really need you to give me some money for "whatever"</p><p>You: I'm not able to help you</p><p>Daughter: Mom, I really need the money you have to help me!</p><p>You: I'm not able to help you</p><p>Daughter: Seriously, you're not able to help me. I know you have the money and I need help!!</p><p>You: You are a grown woman and I'm sure you will figure something out.</p><p>Daughter: I can't believe you won't help me, I hate you!</p><p>You: I'm sorry you feel that way, I love you, good bye.</p><p></p><p>One of the best lessons I've learned is to not discuss things with my son. My son loves to take me on trip down the rabbit hole by talking fast and in circles. I have been left feeling confused and defeated. I now know the best way to respond is short, well rehearsed answers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 746909, member: 18516"] If it were me, my response to this would be "Honey, you have it backwards, you are the one who is cruel by not taking care of your own children" Here's a tip that has worked for many of here. Have a list of responses at the ready. This is really helpful when they call, you can just refer to the list. Also, reading them over and over helps to make them stick in your head. Example: Daughter: Mom, I really need you to give me some money for "whatever" You: I'm not able to help you Daughter: Mom, I really need the money you have to help me! You: I'm not able to help you Daughter: Seriously, you're not able to help me. I know you have the money and I need help!! You: You are a grown woman and I'm sure you will figure something out. Daughter: I can't believe you won't help me, I hate you! You: I'm sorry you feel that way, I love you, good bye. One of the best lessons I've learned is to not discuss things with my son. My son loves to take me on trip down the rabbit hole by talking fast and in circles. I have been left feeling confused and defeated. I now know the best way to respond is short, well rehearsed answers. [/QUOTE]
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