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How long did it take you to finally make a change
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<blockquote data-quote="EarthIsHard" data-source="post: 734383" data-attributes="member: 23004"><p>strangeworld,</p><p>It is a difficult situation surrounding you. It sounds very familiar. We tried for 9 years to help in every way we thought was possible. The problem is, it was us that were trying. He tried too at times, went to rehab, suffered in jail a few times which was not a place to get help at all, in fact they drugged him to the point of drooling, not a help at all. What we thought must surely be the bottom, was never the bottom for him. Finally when he was saying, mom says I have to take drugs to be able to stay in this house, I had enough. In his mind this was his excuse to continue to use heroin and meth and not take responsibility. He wouldn't leave the house like he had the right to be here. Well, legally he did and we had to serve him with a 60 day eviction notice even though he never paid rent. He wouldn't leave. Why would he? He worked maybe 2 weeks out of the year, gave up on all help, went out and got drugs when he wanted and came home for us to put up with the insane behavior. At 60 days, my husband took him to a very good rehab and said it was his choice but he couldn't come home. He listened and talked to them for over an hour then walked out the door. We heard from him the first month and then nothing for over 4 months now. It's heartbreaking. </p><p>I forgot what it was like to have a calm house again it had been so long. I miss him terribly and pray for him every day but it had to be done. He was truly getting worse the longer he stayed no matter what we tried. The point is, he has to try for anything to change. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I really wish we had done it earlier and it may have been easier on him but we always think we can show them the way. </p><p>I wish you strength.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="EarthIsHard, post: 734383, member: 23004"] strangeworld, It is a difficult situation surrounding you. It sounds very familiar. We tried for 9 years to help in every way we thought was possible. The problem is, it was us that were trying. He tried too at times, went to rehab, suffered in jail a few times which was not a place to get help at all, in fact they drugged him to the point of drooling, not a help at all. What we thought must surely be the bottom, was never the bottom for him. Finally when he was saying, mom says I have to take drugs to be able to stay in this house, I had enough. In his mind this was his excuse to continue to use heroin and meth and not take responsibility. He wouldn't leave the house like he had the right to be here. Well, legally he did and we had to serve him with a 60 day eviction notice even though he never paid rent. He wouldn't leave. Why would he? He worked maybe 2 weeks out of the year, gave up on all help, went out and got drugs when he wanted and came home for us to put up with the insane behavior. At 60 days, my husband took him to a very good rehab and said it was his choice but he couldn't come home. He listened and talked to them for over an hour then walked out the door. We heard from him the first month and then nothing for over 4 months now. It's heartbreaking. I forgot what it was like to have a calm house again it had been so long. I miss him terribly and pray for him every day but it had to be done. He was truly getting worse the longer he stayed no matter what we tried. The point is, he has to try for anything to change. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I really wish we had done it earlier and it may have been easier on him but we always think we can show them the way. I wish you strength. [/QUOTE]
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