Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
How to pick a therapist?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 742778" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>Find a therapist before you make any long term decisions. In the meantime don't answer the phone. Take time for you.</p><p></p><p>I don't know the whole situation. People can re-write the past. They can imagine things. There are false memories. </p><p></p><p>I can speak to my own situation. My mother sees herself as a saint. Anyone who doesn't see her that way is just "crazy"from her perspective. This is anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder. But I don't have false memories. She gave me what she needed, not what I needed. Simple example. Two high schools in town. Public HS open to everyone so included kids from rougher neighborhoods. Gifted classes. Other HS religious. Not our religion. No rough kids there. Teachers with religious but not teaching credentials. Religious classes. Gifted? hah! LOL. Enough classes to get academic diploma and pass state HS std tests. Her anxiety was safety. So where did I go to HS? What college did that HS get me into? My fate is mine. Just saying that my needs, wants and my future never came up. Never was a discussion. I was just told where I was going. This isn't about your son. Just saying that I know a lot of kids, my sons' friends, who played sports because Dad wanted them to, not because they did. So our memories as parents, the effort we put into giving them everything we thought they should have, isn't always the same as that of our kids. No, I never stole a penny from my mother. Though I never made her proud either, but for a moment or two when her friends were first to point out my accomplishments. LOL.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 742778, member: 23371"] Find a therapist before you make any long term decisions. In the meantime don't answer the phone. Take time for you. I don't know the whole situation. People can re-write the past. They can imagine things. There are false memories. I can speak to my own situation. My mother sees herself as a saint. Anyone who doesn't see her that way is just "crazy"from her perspective. This is anxiety disorder, social anxiety disorder. But I don't have false memories. She gave me what she needed, not what I needed. Simple example. Two high schools in town. Public HS open to everyone so included kids from rougher neighborhoods. Gifted classes. Other HS religious. Not our religion. No rough kids there. Teachers with religious but not teaching credentials. Religious classes. Gifted? hah! LOL. Enough classes to get academic diploma and pass state HS std tests. Her anxiety was safety. So where did I go to HS? What college did that HS get me into? My fate is mine. Just saying that my needs, wants and my future never came up. Never was a discussion. I was just told where I was going. This isn't about your son. Just saying that I know a lot of kids, my sons' friends, who played sports because Dad wanted them to, not because they did. So our memories as parents, the effort we put into giving them everything we thought they should have, isn't always the same as that of our kids. No, I never stole a penny from my mother. Though I never made her proud either, but for a moment or two when her friends were first to point out my accomplishments. LOL. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
How to pick a therapist?
Top