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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 742779" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Your husband reminds me of me a little bit. He sounds vulnerable. Tired. You sound stronger in the sense that you are better defended.</p><p></p><p>I had a lot of guilt when my son did not thrive as a young adult. And he reacted the way your son is being toward his Dad. He didn't scapegoat me but he gossiped about me to the neighbors and would tell them how I was angry and blew up. (I was in agony. I didn't know what happened to my son and our life together. I was mystified, just as your husband must be.)</p><p></p><p>I kept waiting for my son to have empathy for me. Still waiting. </p><p></p><p>In our case my son put onto me his feelings about being adopted and drug-exposed prenatally. He blamed me. And I didn't even know him then. So that is one answer. They do this because it functions for them, intra-psychically. Your son for whatever reason cannot handle within himself what he is experiencing. So he is using your husband to do so.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 742779, member: 18958"] Your husband reminds me of me a little bit. He sounds vulnerable. Tired. You sound stronger in the sense that you are better defended. I had a lot of guilt when my son did not thrive as a young adult. And he reacted the way your son is being toward his Dad. He didn't scapegoat me but he gossiped about me to the neighbors and would tell them how I was angry and blew up. (I was in agony. I didn't know what happened to my son and our life together. I was mystified, just as your husband must be.) I kept waiting for my son to have empathy for me. Still waiting. In our case my son put onto me his feelings about being adopted and drug-exposed prenatally. He blamed me. And I didn't even know him then. So that is one answer. They do this because it functions for them, intra-psychically. Your son for whatever reason cannot handle within himself what he is experiencing. So he is using your husband to do so. [/QUOTE]
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