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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 742798" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Tired out, you can look at options for therapists in your area at <a href="https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html" target="_blank">Find a Therapist</a> & <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists" target="_blank">Find a Therapist, Psychologist, Counselor - Psychology Today</a>.</p><p></p><p>I've had 25 years of active therapy over my lifetime. I grew up in a family with mental illness and my daughter, who brought me here, exhibits behaviors that fit mental illness and/or conduct disorders although she's never been diagnosed nor has she had therapy. For me therapy has changed my life in enormous, positive ways. It's given me a safe place to get support, guidance, resources, compassion, empathy, to have the experience of being seen and heard and to find my own balance point within so I could make choices which supported my health and well being. I learned how to have a different response to my daughter's behaviors and choices, how to navigate through difficult situations where I felt stymied, how to discern the difference between enabling my daughter & offering loving kindness, how to accept what I cannot change and how to let go of beliefs, ideas, notions, feelings etc, which no longer served me..... and to find my own peace of mind and my own joy in spite of what the circumstances of my daughters life are. </p><p></p><p>For me, it wasn't about talking about my problems, complaints & shortcomings, it was about looking at options I could not see on my own; it was about a safe and nourishing place I could address the painful emotional landscape I was on with a trained individual who could listen to my concerns, & offer me options and different ways of looking at the same situation but with a different perspective. It was often a lifeline in a sea of insanity. I needed that safe place where it was all about me......at that point in time, my life was about everyone else BUT me. </p><p></p><p>It's important to find a person whom you feel safe, comfortable and open with. If you don't find what you're looking for immediately, keep looking....this is for <u><em><strong>you</strong></em></u>, make sure you are receiving what it is you desire from this experience. Trust your instincts. </p><p></p><p>I entered therapy because I wanted to heal, grow, let go of my fears & hurts & to find the life I imagined in spite of all of the challenges life presented. It wasn't always easy, but it was necessary for me. </p><p></p><p>There's a saying which I've attributed to the teachers, healers, therapists and angels who've shown up in my life when I needed them the most....."<em>when the student is ready, the teacher appears.</em>" I have found that to be true. If a therapist is what you want and you begin endeavoring down that path, I believe the right therapist will appear for you. </p><p></p><p>Wishing you smooth sailing in your journey.....sending hugs & love for your wounded Mother's heart......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 742798, member: 13542"] Tired out, you can look at options for therapists in your area at [URL="https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html"]Find a Therapist[/URL] & [URL="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists"]Find a Therapist, Psychologist, Counselor - Psychology Today[/URL]. I've had 25 years of active therapy over my lifetime. I grew up in a family with mental illness and my daughter, who brought me here, exhibits behaviors that fit mental illness and/or conduct disorders although she's never been diagnosed nor has she had therapy. For me therapy has changed my life in enormous, positive ways. It's given me a safe place to get support, guidance, resources, compassion, empathy, to have the experience of being seen and heard and to find my own balance point within so I could make choices which supported my health and well being. I learned how to have a different response to my daughter's behaviors and choices, how to navigate through difficult situations where I felt stymied, how to discern the difference between enabling my daughter & offering loving kindness, how to accept what I cannot change and how to let go of beliefs, ideas, notions, feelings etc, which no longer served me..... and to find my own peace of mind and my own joy in spite of what the circumstances of my daughters life are. For me, it wasn't about talking about my problems, complaints & shortcomings, it was about looking at options I could not see on my own; it was about a safe and nourishing place I could address the painful emotional landscape I was on with a trained individual who could listen to my concerns, & offer me options and different ways of looking at the same situation but with a different perspective. It was often a lifeline in a sea of insanity. I needed that safe place where it was all about me......at that point in time, my life was about everyone else BUT me. It's important to find a person whom you feel safe, comfortable and open with. If you don't find what you're looking for immediately, keep looking....this is for [U][I][B]you[/B][/I][/U], make sure you are receiving what it is you desire from this experience. Trust your instincts. I entered therapy because I wanted to heal, grow, let go of my fears & hurts & to find the life I imagined in spite of all of the challenges life presented. It wasn't always easy, but it was necessary for me. There's a saying which I've attributed to the teachers, healers, therapists and angels who've shown up in my life when I needed them the most....."[I]when the student is ready, the teacher appears.[/I]" I have found that to be true. If a therapist is what you want and you begin endeavoring down that path, I believe the right therapist will appear for you. Wishing you smooth sailing in your journey.....sending hugs & love for your wounded Mother's heart...... [/QUOTE]
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