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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 751643" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Thank you Beta and Busy for helping me better understand what I was striving to express. When we feel we have LOST THEM entirely, what we risk losing is ourselves. That place in us where ONLY they live. That is there ONLY because of our loving them. You see, Beta. I don't see you as having lost Josh. I think that's what I keep reacting too and trying to flag you down. Josh is still there. What you are doing now is seeing the reality of Josh now, and putting in place necessary boundaries. </p><p></p><p>Josh because he is mentally ill or otherwise disordered has made himself unsafe to you. But he is still there. He is "out there" and he is "in there" in you. This is what I keep wanting to get across What I see as my own need, perhaps, to not give up on the love and hope that has propelled me for almost 30 years. How could I?</p><p>This is what I mean. This space. This space in you Busy is always Kay. We are being called upon to do the impossible here. Love them when we can't like them. Love them when we can't be with them. Hope for them when they may have no hope. </p><p></p><p>It is why so many of us turn so strongly I think to spirituality. Because nothing else addresses this impossible place where we live. And this is the blessing of this all, too. Because the impossibility of our lives, cleaves us to the divine, in my case, like nothing else before.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 751643, member: 18958"] Thank you Beta and Busy for helping me better understand what I was striving to express. When we feel we have LOST THEM entirely, what we risk losing is ourselves. That place in us where ONLY they live. That is there ONLY because of our loving them. You see, Beta. I don't see you as having lost Josh. I think that's what I keep reacting too and trying to flag you down. Josh is still there. What you are doing now is seeing the reality of Josh now, and putting in place necessary boundaries. Josh because he is mentally ill or otherwise disordered has made himself unsafe to you. But he is still there. He is "out there" and he is "in there" in you. This is what I keep wanting to get across What I see as my own need, perhaps, to not give up on the love and hope that has propelled me for almost 30 years. How could I? This is what I mean. This space. This space in you Busy is always Kay. We are being called upon to do the impossible here. Love them when we can't like them. Love them when we can't be with them. Hope for them when they may have no hope. It is why so many of us turn so strongly I think to spirituality. Because nothing else addresses this impossible place where we live. And this is the blessing of this all, too. Because the impossibility of our lives, cleaves us to the divine, in my case, like nothing else before. [/QUOTE]
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