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<blockquote data-quote="Kalahou" data-source="post: 745467" data-attributes="member: 19617"><p>Dear Copa,</p><p>Sorry to hear you feel sad, desperate and hopeless again. We all know how these up and downs take us into the deep valleys over and over.</p><p><strong><em>Slow way down. Breathe</em></strong>. You need to do nothing right now. J will do what he will do.</p><p></p><p>My short take on a few points - You tucked these short clips in, but hey appear big to you.</p><p></p><p></p><p>It’s not about your "right to say". The hoody has no bearing on the big issues about J. Your concern about his clothes and haircut are only about what you want. In my opinion, this is too minor to even think about. Let it be.</p><p></p><p>Yes. There is a need to surrender your own expectations and desires to what the reality is. And yes, there are some parts of yourself and your life that you lose in the process. It is a necessary loss. (I’m NOT talking about giving in to J but to surrendering to what is, and to lose the need to have your own way. ) (<em> To honestly stay alive (keep my health)</em>, <em>I have given up and surrendered so much of my former fears, ideas, perceptions, critical judgments, etc, that I am surprised at who I am sometimes, but I am still here and still alright, and still changing and giving up more day by day. </em>)</p><p></p><p>Hoody is OK. Leave it.</p><p></p><p>Take care, dear.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kalahou, post: 745467, member: 19617"] Dear Copa, Sorry to hear you feel sad, desperate and hopeless again. We all know how these up and downs take us into the deep valleys over and over. [B][I]Slow way down. Breathe[/I][/B]. You need to do nothing right now. J will do what he will do. My short take on a few points - You tucked these short clips in, but hey appear big to you. It’s not about your "right to say". The hoody has no bearing on the big issues about J. Your concern about his clothes and haircut are only about what you want. In my opinion, this is too minor to even think about. Let it be. Yes. There is a need to surrender your own expectations and desires to what the reality is. And yes, there are some parts of yourself and your life that you lose in the process. It is a necessary loss. (I’m NOT talking about giving in to J but to surrendering to what is, and to lose the need to have your own way. ) ([I] To honestly stay alive (keep my health)[/I], [I]I have given up and surrendered so much of my former fears, ideas, perceptions, critical judgments, etc, that I am surprised at who I am sometimes, but I am still here and still alright, and still changing and giving up more day by day. [/I]) Hoody is OK. Leave it. Take care, dear. [/QUOTE]
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