healinginside
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Found this reality check that helps me…
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but they’re an adult.
They can figure this out for themselves.
It’s neither required nor fair for you to have to carry the responsibility, the consequences, or the blueprint to another able-bodied, able-minded, grown person’s life and choices,
regardless of the title that person holds.
The FOG - fear, obligation, and guilt
that they are attempting to lay on your shoulders for not doing for them what they should be figuring out and doing for themselves proves that their focus is not on their work, but rather manipulating someone else into doing it.
Don’t let that someone else be you.
Their stuff is not your responsibility.
They’re grown, but you are, too.
You’re allowed to say no,
even when it’s painful, even when it’s hard.
Boundary UP.
Hope this helps!
(Credit goes to @tiyechambers)
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but they’re an adult.
They can figure this out for themselves.
It’s neither required nor fair for you to have to carry the responsibility, the consequences, or the blueprint to another able-bodied, able-minded, grown person’s life and choices,
regardless of the title that person holds.
The FOG - fear, obligation, and guilt
that they are attempting to lay on your shoulders for not doing for them what they should be figuring out and doing for themselves proves that their focus is not on their work, but rather manipulating someone else into doing it.
Don’t let that someone else be you.
Their stuff is not your responsibility.
They’re grown, but you are, too.
You’re allowed to say no,
even when it’s painful, even when it’s hard.
Boundary UP.
Hope this helps!
(Credit goes to @tiyechambers)
And GO YOU to those of you here who are also doing it too! We can do this and so can our adult children, no matter how long it takes. 
