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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 736443" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>Don't beat yourself up, Tired Mama. Every one of us has "caved" when we swore we wouldn't, multiple times. Your intentions were good; you were helping your granddaughter see her father. Your son is the one who turned your good intentions against you.</p><p></p><p>I'm still amazed at how manipulative and ungrateful our difficult children can be. Gift horse indeed. I don't blame you for being angry at him, but don't turn that on yourself. As LBL said, now you know. He's not ready.</p><p></p><p>It's always so tempting to cut ties entirely, or to write *THE* letter that's going to finally shore up our defenses for good. We can't help but crave certainty when we're caught up in their day-to-day drama.</p><p></p><p>It's been my experience that those letters may have made me feel better temporarily, but my son probably didn't even bother to read them, must less respect them. Other moms on the forum suggested I write down bland, non-confrontational responses to my son's nastiness that still allowed me to keep my boundaries intact, then stick to the script. I kept a copy next to the phone and another in my purse. If he continued attacking, I blocked him for a few days.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 736443, member: 17720"] Don't beat yourself up, Tired Mama. Every one of us has "caved" when we swore we wouldn't, multiple times. Your intentions were good; you were helping your granddaughter see her father. Your son is the one who turned your good intentions against you. I'm still amazed at how manipulative and ungrateful our difficult children can be. Gift horse indeed. I don't blame you for being angry at him, but don't turn that on yourself. As LBL said, now you know. He's not ready. It's always so tempting to cut ties entirely, or to write *THE* letter that's going to finally shore up our defenses for good. We can't help but crave certainty when we're caught up in their day-to-day drama. It's been my experience that those letters may have made me feel better temporarily, but my son probably didn't even bother to read them, must less respect them. Other moms on the forum suggested I write down bland, non-confrontational responses to my son's nastiness that still allowed me to keep my boundaries intact, then stick to the script. I kept a copy next to the phone and another in my purse. If he continued attacking, I blocked him for a few days. [/QUOTE]
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