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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 736503" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>You did what you did to try and help him. You did what you did out of love and hope. Nothing wrong with that.</p><p>What is it with these difficult adult kids having the attitude of "it's never good enough"</p><p>I too have been down this road. Once when my son managed to get an apt. I sent several boxes filled with household items for the kitchen and bathroom. His response, "I'd rather have a mattress"</p><p>Another time, my husband and I bought a foreclosed house for him to live in. We renovated it and it's really nice but ungrateful son didn't want to live there rent free mind you, while we were renovating it.</p><p>I have learned the hard way that no matter what I give my son it will never be good enough and he won't respect it. I think the only way my son and many like him will ever value anything is if they have to earn it themselves.</p><p></p><p>I also did this and it helped so much. Keeping responses simple helps to not get drawn into an argument.</p><p>One thing I would repeat over and over when my son would go on one of rants was "Sorry you feel that way"</p><p>I prefer to communicate with my son via text or private message on FB. </p><p></p><p>Don't be hard on yourself. Use this as a learning experience.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 736503, member: 18516"] You did what you did to try and help him. You did what you did out of love and hope. Nothing wrong with that. What is it with these difficult adult kids having the attitude of "it's never good enough" I too have been down this road. Once when my son managed to get an apt. I sent several boxes filled with household items for the kitchen and bathroom. His response, "I'd rather have a mattress" Another time, my husband and I bought a foreclosed house for him to live in. We renovated it and it's really nice but ungrateful son didn't want to live there rent free mind you, while we were renovating it. I have learned the hard way that no matter what I give my son it will never be good enough and he won't respect it. I think the only way my son and many like him will ever value anything is if they have to earn it themselves. I also did this and it helped so much. Keeping responses simple helps to not get drawn into an argument. One thing I would repeat over and over when my son would go on one of rants was "Sorry you feel that way" I prefer to communicate with my son via text or private message on FB. Don't be hard on yourself. Use this as a learning experience. [/QUOTE]
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