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I'm not coping very well, struggling with-anger and depression
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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 487997"><p>Weary, I know exactly how you feel. I think that alot of us here can relate to the emotions that you have. It is VERY depressing to have to deal with alot of the hands that we have been dealt. In many ways our kids are ill, but because it's not a physical illness it's not as recognizable to others who can't understand why we don't have "control" over our kids. Last year at this time I was an absolute mess. Crying all the time. Angry at the situation that I was in with my son. Annoyed with my husband because he did not recognize my deep depression for what it was. In his mind I was being just as difficult as my son was. Nothing made me happy, not even the hobbies that I loved. When you therapist asks you if you've made a suicide plan, you know that you're in bad shape.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I also understand the feeling that you have toward your son. I don't want to do things with him or spend time with him because I am angry about the way he treats me and the way he behaves towards me. Personally I think it's a choice on his part and I can honestly say that there have been times when I truly resent him for what he has done to our family. The rest of us have to deal with his anger and tantrums when things don't go his way and while it has taken a toll on me, it has really taken a toll on easy child and a big toll on my marriage. When husband and I fight, for the most part the subject of the argument is difficult child. It does not make for a healthy marriage at times.</p><p></p><p>I can tell you that I stated an anti-depressant about a year ago, and while it has not made the depression go away entirely, it has lifted to the point where I can function and be a better mother to both of my kids. I'll never be perfect (which one of us will be?), but I can deal with the anger and sadness better than I could last year. It may be something to think about. I always said that I never wanted to take a pill to feel better, but it got to a point where I was wasting my days on the couch because I just didn't want to do anything. I remember giving my kids English muffins for dinner one night, and while I know that English muffins as a dinner is not going to hurt them, I'm the person who cooks dinner every night. For me to say that I just didn't care who ate what for dinner was a huge thing and for me it was the things that sent me to the doctor for help.</p><p></p><p>If you can get your emotions under control, dealing with your difficult child will be a little easier. I hope you feel better. Keep us posted as to how you are doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 487997"] Weary, I know exactly how you feel. I think that alot of us here can relate to the emotions that you have. It is VERY depressing to have to deal with alot of the hands that we have been dealt. In many ways our kids are ill, but because it's not a physical illness it's not as recognizable to others who can't understand why we don't have "control" over our kids. Last year at this time I was an absolute mess. Crying all the time. Angry at the situation that I was in with my son. Annoyed with my husband because he did not recognize my deep depression for what it was. In his mind I was being just as difficult as my son was. Nothing made me happy, not even the hobbies that I loved. When you therapist asks you if you've made a suicide plan, you know that you're in bad shape. I also understand the feeling that you have toward your son. I don't want to do things with him or spend time with him because I am angry about the way he treats me and the way he behaves towards me. Personally I think it's a choice on his part and I can honestly say that there have been times when I truly resent him for what he has done to our family. The rest of us have to deal with his anger and tantrums when things don't go his way and while it has taken a toll on me, it has really taken a toll on easy child and a big toll on my marriage. When husband and I fight, for the most part the subject of the argument is difficult child. It does not make for a healthy marriage at times. I can tell you that I stated an anti-depressant about a year ago, and while it has not made the depression go away entirely, it has lifted to the point where I can function and be a better mother to both of my kids. I'll never be perfect (which one of us will be?), but I can deal with the anger and sadness better than I could last year. It may be something to think about. I always said that I never wanted to take a pill to feel better, but it got to a point where I was wasting my days on the couch because I just didn't want to do anything. I remember giving my kids English muffins for dinner one night, and while I know that English muffins as a dinner is not going to hurt them, I'm the person who cooks dinner every night. For me to say that I just didn't care who ate what for dinner was a huge thing and for me it was the things that sent me to the doctor for help. If you can get your emotions under control, dealing with your difficult child will be a little easier. I hope you feel better. Keep us posted as to how you are doing. [/QUOTE]
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