Ellenkc
New Member
Its been quite awhile - maybe 13 yrs since I've connected to the site. Sad to be back, glad you are still here! B is now 33 yrs.
Short version: He has a history of not performing in school = alternate school programs. Behavorial problems, pot smoker. We kicked him out at 17 yr. Enough was enough. He has survived. Moved back with me twice. Recently lived with his dad - close to getting an Associates Degree. Schooling still a struggle. Ex has been helping him out a lot with living accommodations and financially.
Has been in his own apartment with a job. We thought this might be The Job. Word to the wise don't date the boss's daughter. Ugly ending to the relationship last spring with her parents getting involved. Ex found counseling for B. Doesn't have many friends.
Received a phone call from my ex last week. B really struggling felt he is now adding depression to the mix. I took off work and went to spend time with him. B is only one now in one state. Rest of us in different state now. Was recently on fluoxetine which really ramped up his usual unwanted behavior. Ranting behavior was something to see!!! Pill doctor said to go off medication. Supposed to meet with psychiatrist 2/22. Lots of communication with ex last week. Was good and bad to spend time with B each day. However, B now not responding to our texts. Don't know if he kept the appointment. Sucks to be a parent!!! Would love to lay into him about that - but detachment as ever is the watch word!!!!
When they are younger one always has the hope they will get it together enough to be self-sufficient. If B is going to continue to revert to his younger ridiculous non coping behaviors at this age - He's doomed.
Guess he needs a brain transplant? Never listens, is always right, always someone else's fault, leaving jobs, along with lots of anger etc., etc., etc., he will remain stuck.
After being back in the 'war-zone' with him after all this time I am now trying to grasp the concept that he may never be self-sufficient or really successful!!! Now it feels more terrifying than when he was younger. Not sure if ex will ever stop helping him. Back in the "When does one actually stop everything?" and see what happens?????? I don't want to watch it happen.
Being with him brought back all the memories of parenting him. Amazes me we lived under such stress and worry for so long and survived it. So here I am after all these years needing a place to vent!! Sad!!!
Stay strong Everyone!
Short version: He has a history of not performing in school = alternate school programs. Behavorial problems, pot smoker. We kicked him out at 17 yr. Enough was enough. He has survived. Moved back with me twice. Recently lived with his dad - close to getting an Associates Degree. Schooling still a struggle. Ex has been helping him out a lot with living accommodations and financially.
Has been in his own apartment with a job. We thought this might be The Job. Word to the wise don't date the boss's daughter. Ugly ending to the relationship last spring with her parents getting involved. Ex found counseling for B. Doesn't have many friends.
Received a phone call from my ex last week. B really struggling felt he is now adding depression to the mix. I took off work and went to spend time with him. B is only one now in one state. Rest of us in different state now. Was recently on fluoxetine which really ramped up his usual unwanted behavior. Ranting behavior was something to see!!! Pill doctor said to go off medication. Supposed to meet with psychiatrist 2/22. Lots of communication with ex last week. Was good and bad to spend time with B each day. However, B now not responding to our texts. Don't know if he kept the appointment. Sucks to be a parent!!! Would love to lay into him about that - but detachment as ever is the watch word!!!!
When they are younger one always has the hope they will get it together enough to be self-sufficient. If B is going to continue to revert to his younger ridiculous non coping behaviors at this age - He's doomed.
Guess he needs a brain transplant? Never listens, is always right, always someone else's fault, leaving jobs, along with lots of anger etc., etc., etc., he will remain stuck.
After being back in the 'war-zone' with him after all this time I am now trying to grasp the concept that he may never be self-sufficient or really successful!!! Now it feels more terrifying than when he was younger. Not sure if ex will ever stop helping him. Back in the "When does one actually stop everything?" and see what happens?????? I don't want to watch it happen.
Being with him brought back all the memories of parenting him. Amazes me we lived under such stress and worry for so long and survived it. So here I am after all these years needing a place to vent!! Sad!!!
Stay strong Everyone!
