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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 758027" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I recognize how this would be. When drugs hijack a person, they are in control of their life and their personality; their will and their motivation.</p><p></p><p>What I am trying to do is to hold my son in my heart as whole; and that way I can feel whole and feel my love for him wholly. That requires that I set very strong limits because I am vulnerable to the pull of my heart to reach out to my son and I am potentially vulnerable to the real him, as well.</p><p></p><p>The way I am dealing with that is by trying to stay in reality as an adult mother. Which is to say, I strive to think rationally, take charge of my circumstances, and take responsibility for what happens in my environment and within myself. More than that I cannot do.</p><p></p><p>Your son is an adult, equal to you, as is my own son. They are separate people who we love. They make choices we can't control. But I refuse to give up my son, the son I can hold in my heart, independent of his actions and his choices. I have every right to hold the child I raised in my heart. Which is what I am doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 758027, member: 18958"] I recognize how this would be. When drugs hijack a person, they are in control of their life and their personality; their will and their motivation. What I am trying to do is to hold my son in my heart as whole; and that way I can feel whole and feel my love for him wholly. That requires that I set very strong limits because I am vulnerable to the pull of my heart to reach out to my son and I am potentially vulnerable to the real him, as well. The way I am dealing with that is by trying to stay in reality as an adult mother. Which is to say, I strive to think rationally, take charge of my circumstances, and take responsibility for what happens in my environment and within myself. More than that I cannot do. Your son is an adult, equal to you, as is my own son. They are separate people who we love. They make choices we can't control. But I refuse to give up my son, the son I can hold in my heart, independent of his actions and his choices. I have every right to hold the child I raised in my heart. Which is what I am doing. [/QUOTE]
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