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<blockquote data-quote="Marg's Man" data-source="post: 401556" data-attributes="member: 4085"><p>I'm going to ignore the rest (you have to with teens anyway) but driving is a different matter.</p><p></p><p>Staying calm when you are behind the wheel of the one to two ton monster you are in charge of is <strong>ESSENTIAL</strong>. There is room behind the wheel for you and nothing else including idiocy, drug influences, tantrums and the like. Try and rehearse a couple of scenarios with your daughter of how to behave when something annoying happens.</p><p></p><p>We've all had it happen to us; the clown that (almost) runs you off the road to get in front of you and then props suddenly to take the next corner; the tailgater rides you to make you go faster; the little old (insert gender here) who potters along the road 10,15, 20(!) under the limit with their blinker from the last turn going or the person flips you off as they get alongside you on the freeway. This last often leads to road rage incidents with all their attendant dangers. Heck! It's frustrating enough to crawl at a snail's pass past the 100 kmh sign in a traffic jam while watching the heat gauge on the dashboard wrap itself around the too hot stop. In all this you have to stay calm, hard for us, even harder for a difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Australian drivers are pretty quiet - by that I mean we don't blow our horns much except in truly hazardous situations, almost never in frustration. To do so is almost considered road rage (it's not of course). difficult child 3 has picked up some of his mental driving habits from Grand Theft Auto which is both criminal and un-Australian so he often sees something that he feels requires the use of the horn when it is usually just his frustration speaking. We make him work out what good would it do. </p><p>Would it relieve his frustration - maybe but only maybe</p><p>Would prevent the incident becoming dangerous - probably not, it has already happened</p><p>Would it generate road rage in the other driver - highly likely. </p><p>To many other drivers, he's just a young punk learner who shouldn't be on the road blocking their bit of tarmac. It doen't help that he is the most demonised type of driver of all - the teenage male.</p><p></p><p>The driver supervising a learner is THE driver of the car; you are just doing it by remote control through the limbs of the learner you are supervising. You are not just teaching them where to put their hands and feet to point this weapon (it can KILL and often does; look at the road statistics); you are also teaching them a state of mind to remain in control of the monster and that control starts in their own heads.</p><p></p><p>Marg's Man</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marg's Man, post: 401556, member: 4085"] I'm going to ignore the rest (you have to with teens anyway) but driving is a different matter. Staying calm when you are behind the wheel of the one to two ton monster you are in charge of is [B]ESSENTIAL[/B]. There is room behind the wheel for you and nothing else including idiocy, drug influences, tantrums and the like. Try and rehearse a couple of scenarios with your daughter of how to behave when something annoying happens. We've all had it happen to us; the clown that (almost) runs you off the road to get in front of you and then props suddenly to take the next corner; the tailgater rides you to make you go faster; the little old (insert gender here) who potters along the road 10,15, 20(!) under the limit with their blinker from the last turn going or the person flips you off as they get alongside you on the freeway. This last often leads to road rage incidents with all their attendant dangers. Heck! It's frustrating enough to crawl at a snail's pass past the 100 kmh sign in a traffic jam while watching the heat gauge on the dashboard wrap itself around the too hot stop. In all this you have to stay calm, hard for us, even harder for a difficult child. Australian drivers are pretty quiet - by that I mean we don't blow our horns much except in truly hazardous situations, almost never in frustration. To do so is almost considered road rage (it's not of course). difficult child 3 has picked up some of his mental driving habits from Grand Theft Auto which is both criminal and un-Australian so he often sees something that he feels requires the use of the horn when it is usually just his frustration speaking. We make him work out what good would it do. Would it relieve his frustration - maybe but only maybe Would prevent the incident becoming dangerous - probably not, it has already happened Would it generate road rage in the other driver - highly likely. To many other drivers, he's just a young punk learner who shouldn't be on the road blocking their bit of tarmac. It doen't help that he is the most demonised type of driver of all - the teenage male. The driver supervising a learner is THE driver of the car; you are just doing it by remote control through the limbs of the learner you are supervising. You are not just teaching them where to put their hands and feet to point this weapon (it can KILL and often does; look at the road statistics); you are also teaching them a state of mind to remain in control of the monster and that control starts in their own heads. Marg's Man [/QUOTE]
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