Mostly posting to vent. Warning... This is long.
Things went from bad to worse yesterday. First, in the afternoon she knocks on our door and has a young woman with her, T, who is her boyfriends (J) current wife. Acting like they were high school chums. She said she needed to get some clothes because she thought she had a job interview the next day.
So the two of them went upstairs and I followed. My husband asks who's car is in our driveway and T said "it's mine." He said who's in the car ? Turns out it was J and another guy. He asked her to move the car out of our driveway. She did.
Difficult Child picks up two tops both with spaghetti straps and I told her I didn't think those are the most appropriate things to wear for job interviews because it wouldn't match the dress code of what employees wear. She took the them anyway.
I told Difficult Child that hanging out with J and his wife was messed up. She agreed.
Then she asked to get in the shed in the backyard to get some of Js clothes. (From last week when she totalled the car) When she left... we just shook our head.
Fast forward about three hours. At 4 PM she called home crying asking us to come and get her at a park on the edge of town. We grabbed our baseball bats and hop in the car. Before we could get out of the driveway she texts..."never mind I have a ride".
I ask who is driving her home and she said T. I said that's a really stupid idea. I ask her to stay on the phone with me until she got dropped off. She said her phone was at 15% and so she needed to save the battery. After 30 minutes I texted her and said where are you and she said I'll be home soon.
An hour and a half after she called crying, she still wasn't home and wasn't answering her phone and my messages weren't going through. I hadn't checked her texting app in months but I felt the situation warranted it
Since she had talk to me she had texted J's Moms # asking for a ride from the park. She told his mom that J had thrown her to the ground multiple times and she needed bandages. Then she said T had beat up J and he needed a ride home too. She said J had went back to His wife. His mom declined as she was baby sitting and another son had her vehicle to get to his job.
So I start driving out to the park and call my husband ask him to meet me there. Then I thought, maybe, under the situation, I should notify the police and have them check there.
We all got there about the same time. My husband saw Difficult Child and J sitting in the park about a block away he went over and talk to them. When they noticed the police had pulled into the park Jarred and his wife got up and ran into the trees that border a residential area.
The police talked to Difficult Child and she downplayed everything. I didn't see any bleeding on her but I could tell her face had small minor scratches and her jeans had lots of grass stains...not just on her knees. she tried to deflect the scratches on her face to the car accident over a week ago. She refused to come home with us. She said T just had a miscarriage and she felt sorry for her. And she was wearing the top she took "for a job interview".
She said J's uncle was coming to give them all a ride home. At 7 PM she texted 'can I call you later"? I said yes, but I'll be at AA family group meeting from 7 to 8. I ask her where she was and she was still at the park.
Fred and I drive back to the park about 8:30pm and walked all around it...calling her name.
Since about 7pm, her phone had been dead or off-line, then, about 1 AM this morning she texted "I'm back in town.I'm OK I'm not with J anymore."
I checked the daily police bulletin and T was on it... About 8:30pm she was charged with ICOL... Illegal consumption of liquor.
Today she texts me she and J just had an argument...and they were going to talk later today. Her sister stopped by saying that Difficult Child and J were back together!
I was so ticked. There was one incident when I thought she played us for $5. Sunday night, she dropped by, begging for $5, because J's mom was demanding it for the food she ate that day. We had company so husband let his guard down. I texted J's mom and said I know you probably don't want to hear from me... And I asked her if she got the $5. Yep she played us both.
I told her if she had concerns about Difficult Child to call me. Difficult Child doesn't know that she and I know she played us both. She and J are still at his moms, but she's tired of it and says they will be out soon.
I texted Difficult Child. Told her never to have J or T on our property. Never to bring a friend over with out permission. Never stop by unannounced. That I was tired of her only coming over to get stuff.
She texted back... I'm sorry. Doesn't mean a thing to me. All the lies... Can't believe a damn thing.
Ksm
Things went from bad to worse yesterday. First, in the afternoon she knocks on our door and has a young woman with her, T, who is her boyfriends (J) current wife. Acting like they were high school chums. She said she needed to get some clothes because she thought she had a job interview the next day.
So the two of them went upstairs and I followed. My husband asks who's car is in our driveway and T said "it's mine." He said who's in the car ? Turns out it was J and another guy. He asked her to move the car out of our driveway. She did.
Difficult Child picks up two tops both with spaghetti straps and I told her I didn't think those are the most appropriate things to wear for job interviews because it wouldn't match the dress code of what employees wear. She took the them anyway.
I told Difficult Child that hanging out with J and his wife was messed up. She agreed.
Then she asked to get in the shed in the backyard to get some of Js clothes. (From last week when she totalled the car) When she left... we just shook our head.
Fast forward about three hours. At 4 PM she called home crying asking us to come and get her at a park on the edge of town. We grabbed our baseball bats and hop in the car. Before we could get out of the driveway she texts..."never mind I have a ride".
I ask who is driving her home and she said T. I said that's a really stupid idea. I ask her to stay on the phone with me until she got dropped off. She said her phone was at 15% and so she needed to save the battery. After 30 minutes I texted her and said where are you and she said I'll be home soon.
An hour and a half after she called crying, she still wasn't home and wasn't answering her phone and my messages weren't going through. I hadn't checked her texting app in months but I felt the situation warranted it
Since she had talk to me she had texted J's Moms # asking for a ride from the park. She told his mom that J had thrown her to the ground multiple times and she needed bandages. Then she said T had beat up J and he needed a ride home too. She said J had went back to His wife. His mom declined as she was baby sitting and another son had her vehicle to get to his job.
So I start driving out to the park and call my husband ask him to meet me there. Then I thought, maybe, under the situation, I should notify the police and have them check there.
We all got there about the same time. My husband saw Difficult Child and J sitting in the park about a block away he went over and talk to them. When they noticed the police had pulled into the park Jarred and his wife got up and ran into the trees that border a residential area.
The police talked to Difficult Child and she downplayed everything. I didn't see any bleeding on her but I could tell her face had small minor scratches and her jeans had lots of grass stains...not just on her knees. she tried to deflect the scratches on her face to the car accident over a week ago. She refused to come home with us. She said T just had a miscarriage and she felt sorry for her. And she was wearing the top she took "for a job interview".
She said J's uncle was coming to give them all a ride home. At 7 PM she texted 'can I call you later"? I said yes, but I'll be at AA family group meeting from 7 to 8. I ask her where she was and she was still at the park.
Fred and I drive back to the park about 8:30pm and walked all around it...calling her name.
Since about 7pm, her phone had been dead or off-line, then, about 1 AM this morning she texted "I'm back in town.I'm OK I'm not with J anymore."
I checked the daily police bulletin and T was on it... About 8:30pm she was charged with ICOL... Illegal consumption of liquor.
Today she texts me she and J just had an argument...and they were going to talk later today. Her sister stopped by saying that Difficult Child and J were back together!
I was so ticked. There was one incident when I thought she played us for $5. Sunday night, she dropped by, begging for $5, because J's mom was demanding it for the food she ate that day. We had company so husband let his guard down. I texted J's mom and said I know you probably don't want to hear from me... And I asked her if she got the $5. Yep she played us both.
I told her if she had concerns about Difficult Child to call me. Difficult Child doesn't know that she and I know she played us both. She and J are still at his moms, but she's tired of it and says they will be out soon.
I texted Difficult Child. Told her never to have J or T on our property. Never to bring a friend over with out permission. Never stop by unannounced. That I was tired of her only coming over to get stuff.
She texted back... I'm sorry. Doesn't mean a thing to me. All the lies... Can't believe a damn thing.
Ksm
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