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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 684716" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Well, now that he's here I think I'm more the buffer. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p><p></p><p>The first night did NOT go well. Jabber gets home about 8:30 p.m. on Mondays. Our son basically didn't say anything to us most of the night. I tried, occasionally, to start a conversation about rules and plans. It didn't work. He basically sat and stared at his phone texting, texting, texting and getting more and more moody...until:</p><p></p><p>EXPLOSION! </p><p></p><p>I'm still not sure what it was about...other than he <em>wants someone to listen to him!!!!! </em>But when someone is screaming the F-word every other breath about God knows what...who wants to listen? </p><p></p><p>After a while he calmed down. After shouting and slammed doors and on and on - and then tears and apologies and ... you know how it goes. I'm still not sure where this all came from. He's upset about the girlfriend...says he pretended he wasn't before she left because he knew she'd be better off without him. He's upset about losing "everything" in the fire - which is not about the material items I'm sure...but about his losing his home he established with her. He's upset that he was the only one trying to work, etc., and that his buddy spent two weeks in the hotel griping but not doing anything at all to try to help figure things out. He's upset about - every damn thing. </p><p></p><p>I'm pretty sure we didn't help at the beginning - but we shouldn't have to. He's 21 years old. He can control himself. I know he can - although he says he can't.</p><p></p><p>So Jabber went to bed about 10:30. I went about 11:30. I think our son went out...he was texting the whole time we were talking, so he had someone up and about still to talk to, but maybe not, who knows, we were asleep. </p><p></p><p>This is going to suck worse than if we never made the offer.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 684716, member: 17309"] Well, now that he's here I think I'm more the buffer. :sigh: The first night did NOT go well. Jabber gets home about 8:30 p.m. on Mondays. Our son basically didn't say anything to us most of the night. I tried, occasionally, to start a conversation about rules and plans. It didn't work. He basically sat and stared at his phone texting, texting, texting and getting more and more moody...until: EXPLOSION! I'm still not sure what it was about...other than he [I]wants someone to listen to him!!!!! [/I]But when someone is screaming the F-word every other breath about God knows what...who wants to listen? After a while he calmed down. After shouting and slammed doors and on and on - and then tears and apologies and ... you know how it goes. I'm still not sure where this all came from. He's upset about the girlfriend...says he pretended he wasn't before she left because he knew she'd be better off without him. He's upset about losing "everything" in the fire - which is not about the material items I'm sure...but about his losing his home he established with her. He's upset that he was the only one trying to work, etc., and that his buddy spent two weeks in the hotel griping but not doing anything at all to try to help figure things out. He's upset about - every damn thing. I'm pretty sure we didn't help at the beginning - but we shouldn't have to. He's 21 years old. He can control himself. I know he can - although he says he can't. So Jabber went to bed about 10:30. I went about 11:30. I think our son went out...he was texting the whole time we were talking, so he had someone up and about still to talk to, but maybe not, who knows, we were asleep. This is going to suck worse than if we never made the offer. [/QUOTE]
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