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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 684731" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Actually, we told him we won't put up with him yelling and screaming and slamming doors. We aren't going to walk on egg shells around him. We just can't take the stress of it. If he wants to TALK to us, calmly, we're there. If he needs moral support, we're there. If he want's counseling, we'll get him one (specifically anger management). But we won't let him stay with us if he continues to act like that.</p><p></p><p>He doesn't seem to get it. He seems to think that we just don't listen. But he doesn't talk...and what exactly are we supposed to do to help him when his only complaint is "I don't have anyone. Everyone lets me down." But "everyone" doesn't include us! He keeps saying he "needs" other people because he can't do it on his own, but he CAN! He was doing it on his own at the apartment - the others weren't helping him. If he were working full-time instead of part-time, he'd be able to pay the bills fine on his own.</p><p></p><p>He definitely doesn't want to work full-time. But that's life - suck it up! (Yeah, that's basically what we told him too.)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Oh that isn't the problem. He can come and go as he pleases, we're asleep and that doesn't wake us up...our bedroom is way in the back. I only ask that if he isn't coming home at all, he send me a text so the next morning I know his not coming in was intentional.</p><p></p><p>We do care that if he stays out all night, then he will sleep all day instead of getting up and getting a job and progressing toward being on his own. If he were a easy child, he could live in the basement, give us some rent, and basically be on his own as far as I care. I don't know how Jabber feels about that...but he's not a easy child, so it's kind of moot anyway I suppose.</p><p></p><p>I have to admit, right now I'm a bit nervous about the stuff in our house that might "go missing". I don't actually <em>think</em> he'd do anything that stupid...but he clearly hasn't progressed as much as I'd thought he had either. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 684731, member: 17309"] Actually, we told him we won't put up with him yelling and screaming and slamming doors. We aren't going to walk on egg shells around him. We just can't take the stress of it. If he wants to TALK to us, calmly, we're there. If he needs moral support, we're there. If he want's counseling, we'll get him one (specifically anger management). But we won't let him stay with us if he continues to act like that. He doesn't seem to get it. He seems to think that we just don't listen. But he doesn't talk...and what exactly are we supposed to do to help him when his only complaint is "I don't have anyone. Everyone lets me down." But "everyone" doesn't include us! He keeps saying he "needs" other people because he can't do it on his own, but he CAN! He was doing it on his own at the apartment - the others weren't helping him. If he were working full-time instead of part-time, he'd be able to pay the bills fine on his own. He definitely doesn't want to work full-time. But that's life - suck it up! (Yeah, that's basically what we told him too.) Oh that isn't the problem. He can come and go as he pleases, we're asleep and that doesn't wake us up...our bedroom is way in the back. I only ask that if he isn't coming home at all, he send me a text so the next morning I know his not coming in was intentional. We do care that if he stays out all night, then he will sleep all day instead of getting up and getting a job and progressing toward being on his own. If he were a easy child, he could live in the basement, give us some rent, and basically be on his own as far as I care. I don't know how Jabber feels about that...but he's not a easy child, so it's kind of moot anyway I suppose. I have to admit, right now I'm a bit nervous about the stuff in our house that might "go missing". I don't actually [I]think[/I] he'd do anything that stupid...but he clearly hasn't progressed as much as I'd thought he had either. :( [/QUOTE]
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