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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 755324" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Skittles, I am so sorry. I don't have more to say than do the others but wanted to add my support and a few thoughts.I have a couple of girlfriends who adopted sibling groups. I believe in foster care and fost-adopt there is the desire to keep the children united. </p><p>What about going to a domestic violence shelter? They would have the resources to help to put her up in an apartment, I think. They would also have counselors who would work with her in light of her disabilities. </p><p></p><p>The other idea I have is the Rescue Mission. I don't know if there is this resource in your town/city but in my city there are non-governmental programs that provide support, housing, job training to individuals and to families.</p><p></p><p>There is a reality to this situation that you can't stop. You know that. It is terrible and horrible but unstoppable. If the mother is unfit or limited to the extent she can't make reasonable and minimally responsible decisions, this is an immutable reality. She is not operating with a full deck. To seek a five bedroom home without the resources to pay, with a difficult and competitive rental market, with bad credit, with little money or ability to pay market rent, and to let the clock run out, does not seem rational or fit. How could this situation continue? It had to get to this point. And maybe it's for the best that it did, if she is inviting into their home and their life a violent and explosive man.</p><p></p><p>She seems to be heading towards an outcome where she will lose her children. Maybe she wants this. Maybe she knows she is not capable.</p><p>If your son is not in a position to take on his kids, maybe the writing is on the wall. I don't understand why he would choose the girlfriend's kids instead of his, own, but maybe this is another reality that has to be faced and come about for the children to arrive to a situation where there can be stability.</p><p></p><p>I don't know what the resources are to work with parents that seem to be either incapable or unwilling to rise to the occasion. I can understand parental reunification as a goal and value, but what kind of resources can the County bring to bear on parents who seem beyond choosing for their children?</p><p></p><p>Personally, I wish the kids could be adopted as a sibling group. I would want them.</p><p></p><p>I feel terrible for you, for the kids, for everybody involved in this. I wish with all of my heart it was different. Maybe things have to progress to the point where these kids can have permanent stability. But I would not assume they would be separated. Honestly, I hope to G-d they are not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 755324, member: 18958"] Skittles, I am so sorry. I don't have more to say than do the others but wanted to add my support and a few thoughts.I have a couple of girlfriends who adopted sibling groups. I believe in foster care and fost-adopt there is the desire to keep the children united. What about going to a domestic violence shelter? They would have the resources to help to put her up in an apartment, I think. They would also have counselors who would work with her in light of her disabilities. The other idea I have is the Rescue Mission. I don't know if there is this resource in your town/city but in my city there are non-governmental programs that provide support, housing, job training to individuals and to families. There is a reality to this situation that you can't stop. You know that. It is terrible and horrible but unstoppable. If the mother is unfit or limited to the extent she can't make reasonable and minimally responsible decisions, this is an immutable reality. She is not operating with a full deck. To seek a five bedroom home without the resources to pay, with a difficult and competitive rental market, with bad credit, with little money or ability to pay market rent, and to let the clock run out, does not seem rational or fit. How could this situation continue? It had to get to this point. And maybe it's for the best that it did, if she is inviting into their home and their life a violent and explosive man. She seems to be heading towards an outcome where she will lose her children. Maybe she wants this. Maybe she knows she is not capable. If your son is not in a position to take on his kids, maybe the writing is on the wall. I don't understand why he would choose the girlfriend's kids instead of his, own, but maybe this is another reality that has to be faced and come about for the children to arrive to a situation where there can be stability. I don't know what the resources are to work with parents that seem to be either incapable or unwilling to rise to the occasion. I can understand parental reunification as a goal and value, but what kind of resources can the County bring to bear on parents who seem beyond choosing for their children? Personally, I wish the kids could be adopted as a sibling group. I would want them. I feel terrible for you, for the kids, for everybody involved in this. I wish with all of my heart it was different. Maybe things have to progress to the point where these kids can have permanent stability. But I would not assume they would be separated. Honestly, I hope to G-d they are not. [/QUOTE]
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