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Just said NO and feeling awful
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<blockquote data-quote="mentalcase" data-source="post: 745948" data-attributes="member: 23458"><p>I don't think any parent would feel great about knowing their adult child could face jail. I understand wanting to help our kids but someone once clarified when i should help and when I shouldn't and it made sense. If someone is suffering consequences for poor choices (within their control) = no help. If someone is suffering because of things outside their control (natural disaster, cancer) = help.</p><p></p><p>That little formula makes things simple for me when deciding what to do. I might have some uncomfortable feelings about it, but i know it's what is the right thing to do for me and the feelings subside. You're doing the right thing. It probably doesn't feel like it but feelings are just feelings. Take good care of yourself. Maybe even indulge yourself a little. Seems counter intuitive, but it helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mentalcase, post: 745948, member: 23458"] I don't think any parent would feel great about knowing their adult child could face jail. I understand wanting to help our kids but someone once clarified when i should help and when I shouldn't and it made sense. If someone is suffering consequences for poor choices (within their control) = no help. If someone is suffering because of things outside their control (natural disaster, cancer) = help. That little formula makes things simple for me when deciding what to do. I might have some uncomfortable feelings about it, but i know it's what is the right thing to do for me and the feelings subside. You're doing the right thing. It probably doesn't feel like it but feelings are just feelings. Take good care of yourself. Maybe even indulge yourself a little. Seems counter intuitive, but it helps. [/QUOTE]
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