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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 731563" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I learned a long time ago that this kind of thinking can be the farthest from the truth. People are good at wearing masks, myself included. For years my co-workers had no clue the chaos my son caused. The only one that knew was my boss because I would have to explain why I would have suddenly leave in the middle of the day so many times due to the school calling about my sons truancy. My co-workers thought I was just a happy go lucky kind of person. I did not bring my emotions to work, I've always been very good at keeping my personal life and work life separate.</p><p>I truly believe that everyone has some kind of struggle they are dealing with. It's easy to look at others and think, wow, they've got it all together but the truth is, we really don't know.</p><p>What I do know is we are given this one life to live and just as our difficult adult children choose their lives, so must we. There is a line in the movie the Shawshank Redemption that has stuck with me, "Get busy living, or get busy dying" </p><p>Yes, there will always be a sadness in my life because of the choices my son has made and the way he lives his life BUT I will not let that define me. I'm going to live my life to the fullest, I will seek out things that make me happy and I will not harbor any guilt. </p><p>We battle weary parents owe it to ourselves to be good to ourselves and live the very best lives we can.</p><p>I hope your feeling blue will quickly pass and you will know that you deserve to be happy despite having a difficult adult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 731563, member: 18516"] I learned a long time ago that this kind of thinking can be the farthest from the truth. People are good at wearing masks, myself included. For years my co-workers had no clue the chaos my son caused. The only one that knew was my boss because I would have to explain why I would have suddenly leave in the middle of the day so many times due to the school calling about my sons truancy. My co-workers thought I was just a happy go lucky kind of person. I did not bring my emotions to work, I've always been very good at keeping my personal life and work life separate. I truly believe that everyone has some kind of struggle they are dealing with. It's easy to look at others and think, wow, they've got it all together but the truth is, we really don't know. What I do know is we are given this one life to live and just as our difficult adult children choose their lives, so must we. There is a line in the movie the Shawshank Redemption that has stuck with me, "Get busy living, or get busy dying" Yes, there will always be a sadness in my life because of the choices my son has made and the way he lives his life BUT I will not let that define me. I'm going to live my life to the fullest, I will seek out things that make me happy and I will not harbor any guilt. We battle weary parents owe it to ourselves to be good to ourselves and live the very best lives we can. I hope your feeling blue will quickly pass and you will know that you deserve to be happy despite having a difficult adult child. [/QUOTE]
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