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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 754267" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Acacia</p><p></p><p>I love the Poem/story by Portia Nelson. We all know it and live it daily but it creates a great visual to help us really see our circumstances for what the are and deal with them differently. </p><p>Don’t beat yourself up that you gave your son that rent money. You did what you felt you had to do. We all slip backwards from time to time but it’s important we keep moving forward. Keep taking baby steps in the right direction. We’ve been at this enabling thing for quite sometime and I feel it’s often times our addiction. To please and find approval and we think our adult children will love us more when we succumb to their financial requests. </p><p>I realized if I gave every last dime to them for their approval and hopes they’d see me as a good mother was ridiculous. It only appeases my discomfort but the problem will remain until they make changes in their lives. So I continue to work through that discomfort trying to do the best I can with God’s guidance and continually turning my sons over to His care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 754267, member: 23405"] Acacia I love the Poem/story by Portia Nelson. We all know it and live it daily but it creates a great visual to help us really see our circumstances for what the are and deal with them differently. Don’t beat yourself up that you gave your son that rent money. You did what you felt you had to do. We all slip backwards from time to time but it’s important we keep moving forward. Keep taking baby steps in the right direction. We’ve been at this enabling thing for quite sometime and I feel it’s often times our addiction. To please and find approval and we think our adult children will love us more when we succumb to their financial requests. I realized if I gave every last dime to them for their approval and hopes they’d see me as a good mother was ridiculous. It only appeases my discomfort but the problem will remain until they make changes in their lives. So I continue to work through that discomfort trying to do the best I can with God’s guidance and continually turning my sons over to His care. [/QUOTE]
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