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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 760546" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Look. You wrote in one of your posts (or at least I think you did--I apologize if I am wrong), that you believe your son will push and push and push until he can go. I think the people here are trying to protect you, not undermine you.</p><p></p><p>I think that a case can be made for both ways. Denying your son, or letting him go. Totally I understand that your son is better off with you. The thing is this: You present a picture of a willful young man who will try to mow you down unless he has his own way.</p><p></p><p>From everything you've written your ex does not seem like a responsible person. He is very likely to just sent your son back, no matter what your son wants.</p><p></p><p>Am I understanding correctly?</p><p></p><p>Pros:</p><p>You do have legal custody.</p><p>You are clearly the better, more responsible, consistent, and caring parent. </p><p>Cons:</p><p>Your son has been violent, living with you.</p><p>Your son wants to go and you believe he will keep pushing you until you let him go.</p><p>Your ex is willing to take him, for now. (Who knows how long.)</p><p>They did live together at least for some time so that your son does have some idea of what the situation is with his father.</p><p>Your son does have existing problems. Even living with you.</p><p></p><p>You also say in an earlier post something like this: that your ex gets what he wants, runs your life, is carefree. This sounds here, and I am not judging like you have some resentment of your ex. Who wouldn't? But the thing is this--I can't see one thing that this man, your ex-husband, is winning at. I don't see one way where he has power over you or your life. </p><p></p><p>As I see it your ex has no power here. You do. Everybody here cares about you, is thinking about your welfare. Your son is hellbent to do what he wants. You don't have to let him. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like you hold all of the cards. Your ex seems half-hearted at best. Likely in a week or two, he will send your son back. Even though your son would want to stay, do you really think your ex will want the responsibility?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 760546, member: 18958"] Look. You wrote in one of your posts (or at least I think you did--I apologize if I am wrong), that you believe your son will push and push and push until he can go. I think the people here are trying to protect you, not undermine you. I think that a case can be made for both ways. Denying your son, or letting him go. Totally I understand that your son is better off with you. The thing is this: You present a picture of a willful young man who will try to mow you down unless he has his own way. From everything you've written your ex does not seem like a responsible person. He is very likely to just sent your son back, no matter what your son wants. Am I understanding correctly? Pros: You do have legal custody. You are clearly the better, more responsible, consistent, and caring parent. Cons: Your son has been violent, living with you. Your son wants to go and you believe he will keep pushing you until you let him go. Your ex is willing to take him, for now. (Who knows how long.) They did live together at least for some time so that your son does have some idea of what the situation is with his father. Your son does have existing problems. Even living with you. You also say in an earlier post something like this: that your ex gets what he wants, runs your life, is carefree. This sounds here, and I am not judging like you have some resentment of your ex. Who wouldn't? But the thing is this--I can't see one thing that this man, your ex-husband, is winning at. I don't see one way where he has power over you or your life. As I see it your ex has no power here. You do. Everybody here cares about you, is thinking about your welfare. Your son is hellbent to do what he wants. You don't have to let him. It sounds like you hold all of the cards. Your ex seems half-hearted at best. Likely in a week or two, he will send your son back. Even though your son would want to stay, do you really think your ex will want the responsibility? [/QUOTE]
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