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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 734207" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>How did I break free? </p><p></p><p>Well sometimes are harder than others. At the moment when I think he is probably using something, is not having much contact and even though there is a program working with him they can give me no info because he has taken away their release to talk to me I am more worried. So I am thinking about and worrying about him more. I hold onto the fact that he is not on the street and at least someone would know and contact me if he died. So I dont really feel free at the moment. But still itbis not like it once was. I am still loving and enjoying my life.</p><p></p><p>What helped? First was making a consious decision not to let him ruin my life no matter what happened. 2nd alanon helped me a lot. Knowing I am not alone and there are other good parents out there dealing with these kind of issues. 3rd finally accepting the mantra that this is not my fault. I truly did the best I could at the time. Yes I made mistakes. I would do some things differently if I had a do over. But I have given him my all and continue to be there and I cant go back. 4th and this is key I have found things in my life that i really enjoy and I do them. Sometimes I need good distractions.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 734207, member: 15801"] How did I break free? Well sometimes are harder than others. At the moment when I think he is probably using something, is not having much contact and even though there is a program working with him they can give me no info because he has taken away their release to talk to me I am more worried. So I am thinking about and worrying about him more. I hold onto the fact that he is not on the street and at least someone would know and contact me if he died. So I dont really feel free at the moment. But still itbis not like it once was. I am still loving and enjoying my life. What helped? First was making a consious decision not to let him ruin my life no matter what happened. 2nd alanon helped me a lot. Knowing I am not alone and there are other good parents out there dealing with these kind of issues. 3rd finally accepting the mantra that this is not my fault. I truly did the best I could at the time. Yes I made mistakes. I would do some things differently if I had a do over. But I have given him my all and continue to be there and I cant go back. 4th and this is key I have found things in my life that i really enjoy and I do them. Sometimes I need good distractions. [/QUOTE]
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