newstart
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After my mom died last May, I had 4 others pass, last night I went to another funeral for a friend of mine, I have known her since 1978, C was only 66. I remember when C's teenage daughter was out of control, and C helped her but then when C's daughter was in her early 20s C decided she did not want to put up with her crap anymore and broke contact. I did not know all the dynamics of C's relationship with her daughter but when she was done with her daughter's BS, she was done, it was severed. I went to the funeral last and talked to C's daughter. The daughter admitted she was not good, that she wished things were different and when her mother cut ties, she cut them sharp and hard and did not get to know her 3 grandchildren or the daughters husband. The daughter told me 'Mom just did not want all that drama in her life' and I wished we both could have tried harder to have a relationship.
I went home with much on my mind. I don't think C took her daughter to counseling or sat through a mother/daughter session. I took my daughter to counseling and mother/daughter counseling and I think it made a difference, one time the counselor looked at my daughter and said 'you act like an a**' and another time the counselor told her she acts like a psychopath.
Last night C's daughter was very remorseful, wishing things had been different, she felt genuinely grieved, even though there was no relationship between the mother and daughter, the daughter loved her deeply but now it was too late.
I think the love is there with our troubled kids, the dynamics are so that it is not workable.
My daughter moved her spa to a lower rent place and she got a full time job.
Years ago when my daughter bought her first condo, she gave me a fake address. I asked my daughter where her new job was and she gave me another fake address. I told her yesterday that I want to visit her at her new job, she then gave me the right address.
What is up with the constant fake address?
I am glad that her new job is about 45 minutes from her home. Hopefully her boyfriend will not be hanging out there much, he is already giving her grief about not spending much time with him, he still lives with his mom at age 43 so his bills are covered and he has way too much down time.
I noticed a few good looking men my daughter's age at her new job, Please Lord help her find a man that can make a happy healthy couple with her. (Praying out loud).
My friend's funeral is heavy on my mind with me trying to regroup and rethink my plans on how to maneuver through my relationship with my daughter..It is really about healthy boundaries and detaching when you have to.
I went home with much on my mind. I don't think C took her daughter to counseling or sat through a mother/daughter session. I took my daughter to counseling and mother/daughter counseling and I think it made a difference, one time the counselor looked at my daughter and said 'you act like an a**' and another time the counselor told her she acts like a psychopath.
Last night C's daughter was very remorseful, wishing things had been different, she felt genuinely grieved, even though there was no relationship between the mother and daughter, the daughter loved her deeply but now it was too late.
I think the love is there with our troubled kids, the dynamics are so that it is not workable.
My daughter moved her spa to a lower rent place and she got a full time job.
Years ago when my daughter bought her first condo, she gave me a fake address. I asked my daughter where her new job was and she gave me another fake address. I told her yesterday that I want to visit her at her new job, she then gave me the right address.
What is up with the constant fake address?
I am glad that her new job is about 45 minutes from her home. Hopefully her boyfriend will not be hanging out there much, he is already giving her grief about not spending much time with him, he still lives with his mom at age 43 so his bills are covered and he has way too much down time.
I noticed a few good looking men my daughter's age at her new job, Please Lord help her find a man that can make a happy healthy couple with her. (Praying out loud).
My friend's funeral is heavy on my mind with me trying to regroup and rethink my plans on how to maneuver through my relationship with my daughter..It is really about healthy boundaries and detaching when you have to.