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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 727860" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>This seems like a huge red flag to me newstart. Perhaps it would work better if YOU chose the renter and made all the arrangements. Your daughter is bright and clever, she may be manipulating the renter she found with all kinds of lies and illusions.......trusting your daughter and her friend to rent your home and pay you really sounds like a recipe for disaster.</p><p></p><p>From everything you've posted about your daughter, having any kind of financial connection with her sounds as if it will end in failure, with you footing the bill. I know how tough this is on you, but your initial thoughts about selling the house seem more in alignment with protecting your finances and allowing your daughter to figure it out for herself. As long as YOU are the default for her lack of financial responsibility, it sure sounds as if she will continue using you to take that responsibility. I would not enter into that negotiation with my daughter either.....she would "intend" on being responsible, but that would not be the end result. The end result would be ME taking it on. My concern is that will be the outcome for you as well. </p><p></p><p>I understand you want your daughter to have a decent home which you presently can provide. However, I don't think, based on what you've said, that your daughter will rise to your expectations. And, unfortunately, the one who loses in that is you.......protect yourself. Legally, as well as your mothers heart.....put your efforts into yourself and your husband. Your daughter is resourceful, she will find her way. Let her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 727860, member: 13542"] This seems like a huge red flag to me newstart. Perhaps it would work better if YOU chose the renter and made all the arrangements. Your daughter is bright and clever, she may be manipulating the renter she found with all kinds of lies and illusions.......trusting your daughter and her friend to rent your home and pay you really sounds like a recipe for disaster. From everything you've posted about your daughter, having any kind of financial connection with her sounds as if it will end in failure, with you footing the bill. I know how tough this is on you, but your initial thoughts about selling the house seem more in alignment with protecting your finances and allowing your daughter to figure it out for herself. As long as YOU are the default for her lack of financial responsibility, it sure sounds as if she will continue using you to take that responsibility. I would not enter into that negotiation with my daughter either.....she would "intend" on being responsible, but that would not be the end result. The end result would be ME taking it on. My concern is that will be the outcome for you as well. I understand you want your daughter to have a decent home which you presently can provide. However, I don't think, based on what you've said, that your daughter will rise to your expectations. And, unfortunately, the one who loses in that is you.......protect yourself. Legally, as well as your mothers heart.....put your efforts into yourself and your husband. Your daughter is resourceful, she will find her way. Let her. [/QUOTE]
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