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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 751485" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>Well, we have been living with DS for four days. It feels like MUCH longer. Things are going pretty well, but there are warning signs that I am heeding.</p><p></p><p>Today he showed the first signs of old, bad habits. He wanted to call off work with a lame excuse. We didn't allow it. He made excuses as to why he couldn't go to work. We didn't listen. In the end we took him to work. Normally he transports himself, but one of his excuses for wanting to stay home today was the fact that his typical transportation isn't available at the moment. He was grumpy, but complied. The problem with DS is that grumpiness can turn into defiance, which can turn into aggression. But if that happens he will not be staying with us any longer. So we'll have to see.</p><p></p><p>I am more concerned that W is so enthralled with having him here that she will make excuses for him and enable him rather than put him out if that eventually becomes necessary. I still have my bottom lines and will enforce them regardless of what W wants to do. But already she is resistant to me reminding her that he is less than one week away from being tossed out of his group residence for insubordination and defiance. She insists he's doing wonderfully and while the last few days have been good, she doesn't see the larger pattern - that what comes up will eventually come crashing down to earth where DS is concerned. She wants to believe he will never have another episode.</p><p></p><p>He is still not medicated which is one of the conditions of him being here. W is making a psychiatrist appointment and I am asking about this every day.</p><p></p><p>W has magical thinking. But I have to let that be her issue. So far nothing has occurred that concerns me or is a violation of our contract with him - not even close - so for now things are good.</p><p></p><p>I'll continue to update.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 751485, member: 13303"] Well, we have been living with DS for four days. It feels like MUCH longer. Things are going pretty well, but there are warning signs that I am heeding. Today he showed the first signs of old, bad habits. He wanted to call off work with a lame excuse. We didn't allow it. He made excuses as to why he couldn't go to work. We didn't listen. In the end we took him to work. Normally he transports himself, but one of his excuses for wanting to stay home today was the fact that his typical transportation isn't available at the moment. He was grumpy, but complied. The problem with DS is that grumpiness can turn into defiance, which can turn into aggression. But if that happens he will not be staying with us any longer. So we'll have to see. I am more concerned that W is so enthralled with having him here that she will make excuses for him and enable him rather than put him out if that eventually becomes necessary. I still have my bottom lines and will enforce them regardless of what W wants to do. But already she is resistant to me reminding her that he is less than one week away from being tossed out of his group residence for insubordination and defiance. She insists he's doing wonderfully and while the last few days have been good, she doesn't see the larger pattern - that what comes up will eventually come crashing down to earth where DS is concerned. She wants to believe he will never have another episode. He is still not medicated which is one of the conditions of him being here. W is making a psychiatrist appointment and I am asking about this every day. W has magical thinking. But I have to let that be her issue. So far nothing has occurred that concerns me or is a violation of our contract with him - not even close - so for now things are good. I'll continue to update. [/QUOTE]
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