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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 743790" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Wow...you guys think a lot about this stuff. I wouldn't have thought anything at all of not being in that photo and I wouldn't have read anything at all into it. I'd have been relieved that I missed having my photo taken. In fact, I'd likely to have insisted on being the one who <em>took</em> the photo so I could avoid being in it - I hate how I look in photos.</p><p></p><p>Please don't think that I'm making light of your feelings. I think it's interesting, the way people react so differently to different things. I'm sure it is due to difference in upbringing. I know, for instance, that mine was really very quiet and peachy compared to most of the people I know. Which isn't to say I don't have insecurities. I have a ton. I tend to feel very awkward and boring, especially in large groups of people. But while other people tend to take things personally, I usually let small slights just side off, if I notice them at all. I'm rather oblivious to all but the most blatant of insults. It's a rather peaceful way to be. For instance in many weight watcher type groups I've been in, there are always people going on about how someone stared at them while they were eating or refused to help them when they were shopping or mooed (yes, mooed) when they walked by. Well if it happened to them it probably has happened to me...but I've never noticed anything like that. (Okay...I'd have definitely noticed mooing if that had happened.)</p><p></p><p>I also tend to think the best of people. I tend to never assume an evil intent if it can be chalked up to ignorance. In this case, though it came across as rude, I assume they were probably thoughtless (which I suppose IS rudeness) or just thought, since you left the room, that you didn't want to be in the photo. Saying, "Oh! There you are! Let's take another!" would have been the polite thing for them to say. But I'd guess if you asked any of them, they'd say, "Well we said we were going to take the photo. We assumed if anyone wanted in, they would have been there." Thoughtless...but not intentionally rude.</p><p></p><p>But, that's me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 743790, member: 17309"] Wow...you guys think a lot about this stuff. I wouldn't have thought anything at all of not being in that photo and I wouldn't have read anything at all into it. I'd have been relieved that I missed having my photo taken. In fact, I'd likely to have insisted on being the one who [I]took[/I] the photo so I could avoid being in it - I hate how I look in photos. Please don't think that I'm making light of your feelings. I think it's interesting, the way people react so differently to different things. I'm sure it is due to difference in upbringing. I know, for instance, that mine was really very quiet and peachy compared to most of the people I know. Which isn't to say I don't have insecurities. I have a ton. I tend to feel very awkward and boring, especially in large groups of people. But while other people tend to take things personally, I usually let small slights just side off, if I notice them at all. I'm rather oblivious to all but the most blatant of insults. It's a rather peaceful way to be. For instance in many weight watcher type groups I've been in, there are always people going on about how someone stared at them while they were eating or refused to help them when they were shopping or mooed (yes, mooed) when they walked by. Well if it happened to them it probably has happened to me...but I've never noticed anything like that. (Okay...I'd have definitely noticed mooing if that had happened.) I also tend to think the best of people. I tend to never assume an evil intent if it can be chalked up to ignorance. In this case, though it came across as rude, I assume they were probably thoughtless (which I suppose IS rudeness) or just thought, since you left the room, that you didn't want to be in the photo. Saying, "Oh! There you are! Let's take another!" would have been the polite thing for them to say. But I'd guess if you asked any of them, they'd say, "Well we said we were going to take the photo. We assumed if anyone wanted in, they would have been there." Thoughtless...but not intentionally rude. But, that's me. [/QUOTE]
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