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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 743812" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Nomad. I really think Lil's post was brilliant. How she chooses to NOT GO THERE. She assumes that people's motivations are good, and even when there is doubt she takes the position that right in the moment the break can be mended by not over-reacting, with positive words and steps.</p><p></p><p>What I have learned from this thread is this: People can be hurtful, obtuse, or self-centered, for sure. But I don't have to be their victim. With his family, my problem is partly M. He has not reacted well, when I have spoken up for myself. </p><p></p><p>What am I supposed to do? He has left me with the option either of shutting up, or not being around his family. I chose the latter. But this is really too bad.</p><p></p><p>I think the difficult situations I could have handled if I had not personalized them. The problem really was not me, or mine to carry. I think there could have been graceful comments I could have made to both protect myself and to not accept bad treatment. (Maybe I should bring Lil with me.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 743812, member: 18958"] Nomad. I really think Lil's post was brilliant. How she chooses to NOT GO THERE. She assumes that people's motivations are good, and even when there is doubt she takes the position that right in the moment the break can be mended by not over-reacting, with positive words and steps. What I have learned from this thread is this: People can be hurtful, obtuse, or self-centered, for sure. But I don't have to be their victim. With his family, my problem is partly M. He has not reacted well, when I have spoken up for myself. What am I supposed to do? He has left me with the option either of shutting up, or not being around his family. I chose the latter. But this is really too bad. I think the difficult situations I could have handled if I had not personalized them. The problem really was not me, or mine to carry. I think there could have been graceful comments I could have made to both protect myself and to not accept bad treatment. (Maybe I should bring Lil with me.) [/QUOTE]
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