TiredMamaFromJAX
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I have been constantly researching information on different behavior disorders since Christmas. My 3 year old son has always been a handful. He is not laid back and calm like his older brother and sister. He screamed all the time when he was a baby and now he doesn't stop and sit for a minute. He's running or jumping off a couch or trying to escape my view to see what he can get away with....knowing it is wrong or harmful. Although he has been taught several times what is right and wrong and the dangers of strangers, etc... he STILL continues to do it. An example on Christmas is when I took my 3 children to the mall to see santa. It was 3 days before Christmas, which is the busiest time at the mall. I am always over cautious in situations like this because my children are only 6,5, and 3. I make sure we all hold hands, etc and when we were in line for santa, I happened to see my sister and called out for her. My daughter saw that her baby cousin was with my sister and started running to them. As I told my sis to come get in line with us, I looked back down to tell my 2 sons who was there, and the 3 year old was GONE. He had slipped out of line when I looked up and literally RAN away from me... apparently after a train that was making stops all over the mall. Needless to say, I was in a panic and crying..the worst 15 minutes of my life..and when he is found, he is brought back to me with ZERO emotion on his face. ZERO concern... seeing how upset I was, or any concern for his safety or well being, or the fact that he had LOST ME IN A MALL! He also will try to wait till I take a shower, or in the bathroom and climb on a kitchen counter and find a hidden knife to play with. He has stuck the knives in walls, couches...etc and could have REALLY CUT HIMSELF! I have been over all these things with him thousands of times. I have punished him all different ways, and nothing works! He still shows no emotion after he does something wrong, and he usually will be the one to tell me what he did. When I ask him why he always says i dont know.. He is so smart...very intelligent with a broad vocabulary, but I know his behavior is not normal. I definitely have some emotional issues myself and probably a mood disorder. When he was an infant he was exposed to his emotionally/physically abusive father and there was constant fights and screaming while i cried and held him. I know he must have emotional trauma, but I am so tired at this point, I am ready to give up. I am tired of worrying what he will do next, is he going to run back outside in the streets? I just don't know... if nayone has been through this with their child and been able to overcome it please let me know! I am lost...