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My adult daughter is spiraling (Borderline Personality Disorder)
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<blockquote data-quote="Acacia" data-source="post: 762961" data-attributes="member: 19832"><p>As others here have said, unfortunately, sometimes it is necessary to cut contact. My 41 year old borderline daughter cut contact with me hasn't spoken to me for 5 years. I love her, but the verbal abuse, manipulation, and using me became intolerable. When I set boundaries, she cut me off. It hurts, but honestly, not as much as the abuse did. I read good reviews of <em>Stop Caretaking the Borderline and Narcissist,</em> so I'm planning on ordering that.</p><p></p><p>You ask how we moms can be happy in situations like the ones we're in. For me it takes 12 step groups, therapy, self-care, and healthy people in my life. We all make mistakes, but I know I was a loving, imperfect mother, and that I deserve to have joy in my life and to be treated with kindness. My daughter is an adult and, even if she has a mental illness, she makes her own choices. Even people with mental illness can change and reach out for help, but they are the ones who must do it. My thoughts are with you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Acacia, post: 762961, member: 19832"] As others here have said, unfortunately, sometimes it is necessary to cut contact. My 41 year old borderline daughter cut contact with me hasn't spoken to me for 5 years. I love her, but the verbal abuse, manipulation, and using me became intolerable. When I set boundaries, she cut me off. It hurts, but honestly, not as much as the abuse did. I read good reviews of [I]Stop Caretaking the Borderline and Narcissist,[/I] so I'm planning on ordering that. You ask how we moms can be happy in situations like the ones we're in. For me it takes 12 step groups, therapy, self-care, and healthy people in my life. We all make mistakes, but I know I was a loving, imperfect mother, and that I deserve to have joy in my life and to be treated with kindness. My daughter is an adult and, even if she has a mental illness, she makes her own choices. Even people with mental illness can change and reach out for help, but they are the ones who must do it. My thoughts are with you. [/QUOTE]
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