It started in the school years, sigh. Every day at work I would jump anticipating an issue and, of course, mostly it was customers. When it moved to s.a. issues etc. after school in the evening it was worse. Two years ago I started disconnecting the phone at eight each evening. At least I don't have to be startled, lol. on the other hand I have a cell and do get texts from difficult child#2 but they have been trauma free for quite awhile. It's a PTSD thing. DDD