last night when my mom got to the party, my cousin who was helping throw the party for her dad...asked my mom why none of her kids were there. she told her to call and tell us to come. My mom had to tell her that she had not told us about the party. my cousin stood by my mom while my mom called a few of us on the phone. no one was home but one sister. so no one could come. she left a message on my machine telling me she was standing next to my cousin and that I should come to the party. I was stunned to hear her say at the end of her message: "I'm sorry" I got the message this morning when I checked home messages. I never heard her say those words. I feel sorry for her in a way. she is missing out on 7 great kids. kids who love to be together and enjoy emailing and phoning each other all the time. maybe she has learned something from this episode. Either way, I have too learned to let go a bit more from her hold given the past few weeks occurrences. thanks so much for all your understanding!